Voice resonates: choose carefully who you listen to to bring out your best

This is certainly nothing new: various branches of science, from psychology to medicine, have been saying for some time that moods are somehow “contagious” and are transmitted from one individual to another.

Those who are familiar with my work know that everything is vibration, so I am not at all surprised. The human voice carries so many secrets and this is one of the simplest. When you listen to the voice of a charismatic leader, a positive person, you are overwhelmed by positive energy and the desire to do and create is triggered. By listening to the voice of a negative or sad person, you lose the will to do or you increase anger and fear.

The study involved more than 50,000 people and focused on work productivity, but the data that emerged is also very interesting for those who are dedicated to improving the voice of people.

It’s not so much the presence of a person and their hidden “vibrations” that create this domino effect, but their voice. It is necessary for this person to communicate his or her malaise by voice so that the contagion can begin. In fact, if you put a negative person in a group and you don’t leave them the space to speak, they are typically isolated from the group, causing little damage. If, on the other hand, pushed by empathy, one “connects”, the matter changes. All the surrounding people are involved and overwhelmed by the negative vortex. Even the less empathic people, those who mind their own business, are involved. And trying to give “tips”, trying to help, will spread this contagion like wildfire, through the voice of those who have been exposed long enough to change its resonance.

Positivity generates positivity, as long as it is not enveloped by an aura of negativity. In fact, research has shown that negative opinions, sadness, despair, have a greater impact on the people around them than positive opinions, happiness, joy.

Our culture lacks training, the ability to avoid infection, diffusion or negative energy. In fact, the opposite seems true. We’re drawn to negativity. Some psychologists at Harvard University with whom I recently collaborated, have analyzed the link between emotional states, voice and relational patterns. They finally determined that “negativity” spreads just like a virus would. As they usually do, they also pulled out statistical numerical data. I find a good match for this data with my experience as a Vocal Coach. A positive person, with an untrained voice, can only increase the positivity of others by 10%, while a negative person can even duplicate the unhappiness already present in others.

So choosing who to attend, who to listen to, is fundamental. The more you interact with negative people, the more you absorb negative vibrations. Be careful, though. In fact, hostility is also a negative vibration, so it is useless to run away or deliberately avoid negative people, because it will only bring negativity to the environment. Our interactions act as a filter, you have to learn to listen to your Inborn Voice in order not to be affected by negativity and not to suddenly give up, all at once, our positivity because you risk to frustrate it.

Learn to listen is fundamental. It is important to understand how our voice can reflect negativity in order to be able to change it, with little tricks, and turn it into a happy voice. This is why it is fundamental to choose carefully who to entrust your voice to, both to communicate and to learn how to use it. Positive emotions are and will always be the best gift we can give to someone who is going through a bad time, but only if we are able to control our voice.

Have you ever tried to give a positive emotion to the right person, the resonant one? Try it and you’ll see that it will always come back multiplied, reinforced. You can deepen the subject by reading my website, reading my book The Way of the Voice or starting a training with me and the Inborn Voice method.