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When is it best to stay silent and when is it best to speak?

When is it best to stay silent and when is it best to speak?

The human being has been granted the incredible super power of free will, that is, he/she can always choose between a number of possibilities to act. As always, great power carries great responsibilities. 

One of the daily decisions that people make all the time is whether to speak or remain silent. Clearly, when one decides to speak, then one must also decide what to say, when one decides to be silent, then one must also willingly accept all the implications.

This topic is so important that practically all the greatest thinkers have been attributed some aphorism about it. For example, Oscar Wilde was famous for his “Sometimes it’s better to be silent and look stupid than to open your mouth and remove any doubt“, Blaise Pascal for his “In love a silence is worth more than a speech“, but my favorite is Jean Paul Sartre’s “Every word has consequences. Every silence as well.

In my thirty years of Vocal Coach experience I have helped people who were basically silent give voice to their emotions and people who were a little too chatty to listen to their emotions. In my book The Way of the Voice I frequently mention Silence: if you stop to listen to it properly, it’s anything but lacking in interest or musicality. So true is when Miles Davis used to say “The real music is silence. All the notes just frame it“.

So how do you understand when it’s best to be silent and when it’s necessary to talk, for unpleasant that these two situations can be?

Those who know me are well aware that there can be no “standard” answers, which are good for everyone, but I can reassure you: there is a simple marker that can help you to understand what choice should be made. Since in verbal communication, as in all other human relationships, there is rarely a second opportunity to speak, explain or express oneself. It is therefore essential to learn this subtle “art” a little at a time, also thanks to my support as a Vocal Coach. 

This miraculous marker that can help you in this Hamlet decision is yourself and your Inborn Voice. Saying that seems so simple, but in reality only we can know, instinctively and unconsciously, why we choose whether to speak or not. The motivations provided by our logic may be the most disparate, but I am referring to motivations that respond to a different state of consciousness, namely they come from emotions. Sometimes we speak only to clarify a thought to ourselves, others to fill the silence. Sometimes you are silent because you fear the consequences of the spoken words, others to savor the intensity of a moment.

As I said before, whatever the choice, there will be consequences. And even if our logical side doesn’t care about the consequences, they will happen anyway and will influence the emotional side. 

Most of the people I help have an impairment of their capacity to communicate their thoughts to others because they fear a negative emotion related to a specific type of consequence. Yet if we remain silent or fill the silence with circumstantial phrases or speeches for nothing, other consequences will fall into our lives. There is no way of knowing if the consequences of one choice will be worse than the other. 

For example, if you choose to speak, perhaps to convince a loved one of your idea, you risk to crack your relationship forever. If you choose to be silent to avoid breaking the relationship, you risk keeping something inside that will gradually consume you from within. No choice is simple, you have to learn to listen to yourself and your inner silence to be able to make the best one. In fact, not all evils come to harm, sometimes the most feared consequences are precisely those that can make a change in your existence.

So, ultimately, the best advice I can give you is to be selfish and to choose thinking with your own mind and listening to your own Inborn Voice.

3 Main reasons why you should train your voice

3 Main reasons why you should train your voice

Before understanding what are the main benefits that can be achieved training your voice with the Inborn Voice method, it is good to clarify what Mylena Vocal Coach is, as she’s not an ordinary Vocal Coach.

Her work is closely related to emotional intelligence, through the deep connection between voice and soul. Helping people to express, to accomplish through the voice, their “inner world”, therefore their emotions, their expectations, their talents, and their skills, in the “reality”.

Mylena is able to successfully solve any vocal or communication problem in a glimpse: that’s why she well-deserved to be renowned as “Voice Guru” all over the world.  Her key ability is to inspire anyone to speak up, to give voice to their ideas, bringing to the surface their own hidden charisma.

Clearly, she’s also a traditional Vocal Coach that deals with phonation, diction, enunciation, locution, tonality, communication and all the “old fashioned” way of teaching how to use the voice. 

The Inborn Voice method and Mylena Vocal Coach will help you seize the reins of your life to start expressing your “true self” being proud of all your strengths point and not complaining about your weaknesses.

 

1) Working environment

Do you have any issues in your work environment?
Do you feel undervalued, underpaid or being exploited?
Would you like to prove your worth, ask for a raise or perhaps start up your own business?

All you need to turn your dreams into reality is just the determination and the guts to give voice to your ideas. In fact, all you have to do is learn how to project your voice to give an opportunity to the people around you, your colleagues, your boss or your subordinates, to recognize how much you are precious and unique and how much you can contribute. 

Contact now Mylena Vocal Coach for a personal voice assessment session and she will outline your voice profile in few minutes! You can book your first session online using the booking system or using our app!

 

2) Relationship environment

Do you experience difficulties when relating to other people?
Do you have problems gaining new friends?
Are you incapable to establish a lasting romantic relationship?
Do you find yourself frequently fighting with your partner?

Very often the difference between who is able to establish new relationships and who fails is not to be sought in physical appearance, economic wealth or success, but in the ability to interact with others with your voice, to express the beautiful person that you are keeping hidden within yourself.

If in your childhood you had learned some bad communication behaviors in family, at school or on television, it’s not too late to remove them!

You can learn how to communicate effectively using the Inborn Voice method and the invaluable help of Mylena Vocal Coach. Everyone can start new relationships or maintain the present ones, without struggles, misunderstandings or fights.

Interpersonal communication, as a twosome, whether it’s a friendship or sentimental one, is mainly focused on how you use your voice! When you don’t feel adequate you often tend to be silent or you tend to prevail others, perhaps raising the tone of your voice, wasting precious opportunities.

Attends one of Mylena’s international workshops in Los Angeles, Boston, New York, London, Paris, Milan, and Rome to have a jump start in your voice education. You can book your participation online or using our app!

 

3) Family environment

This one is the most delicate of the three situations because it concerns deep and intimate emotions.

The parent/child relationship is something that evokes strong emotions and as we have seen, they are directly connected with your voice and your soul.

We all are someone’s children and you may still have communication issues with your parents even in elderly age! This is much more frequent than ones may think. When you stop talking, you stop communicating. You can’t express yourself anymore to our loved ones, leaving an empty space that over time will appear to be unbridgeable.

If you now are a parent, even if your desire is to be the best parent ever, you may find yourself facing your child who do not seem to be listening or who take pleasure in ignoring you.

This can be easily avoided. You are simply using your voice the bad way, and you are teaching the same behavior to your child. At this point, you will have understood how important it is for a parent to stop this repeating circle and give their children the opportunity to learn an effective way of communicating, in order to give them an important advantage that will lead them to avoid problems and hardships in the adolescent age and in the subsequent working and sentimental life.

Once you’ve made your way through the Inborn Voice training, as you can witness from the many testimonials, you may completely change your life for better!

You can dig more informations on the Latest Vocal Coaching News section or reading the latest book by Mylena Vocal Coach

Mylena Vocal Coach aired over RAI Italia

Mylena Vocal Coach aired over RAI Italia

Today it has been broadcasted on RAI, in the program L’Italia con Voi, dedicated to Italians abroad, an interview that has been delivered in New York.

Accidents don’t exist and whoever follows me will know that I accompanied Giovanni Scialpi to the RAI show “Ora o Mai più” conducted by Amadeus and with Jessica Morlacchi as guest. Well, the episode of the show opened with Jessica, followed by Amadeus and immediately afterwards my interview. I take this opportunity to send a big hug to Amadeus and to all the cast of the show, but also to all the operators of the Studio!

But let’s see at my interview (with captions):

Here is the transcript:

First, however, I must launch the next report by Andrea Fumagalli.
We go to New York and hear a vocal coach
Oh, great!
Milena Origgi is a vocal coach originally from Busto Arsizio (Italy)
After an experience in London, Milena has moved to Boston three years ago

Tonight she is in New York to present her book “The Way of the Voice” in which she illustrates her method of voice training: Inborn Voice®

This method is the only one in the world that does not try to introduce new knowledge into the people, but tries to extract, to remove, to let out, to remove, errors or incorrect learning, to free completely our ability, our vocality and all our expressiveness!

I carry the flag of Italy high for its “craftsmanship” concept

My classes open in at least three ways.
Generally they are lessons that deal with vocality at a practical level for those who choose the “technical” part than the first place, therefore the exercises are not exercises like the usual vocalisations but they are almost mute exercises, done in silence.
And yet the voice gets better!
And that’s the first magic.
Second magic: some people ask me to go even deeper so here we start in the second part of this method and it is the “emotional” part, as well as the technique.
People begin to improve their socializing attitude, couples talk to each other and improve their communication.
Third and last part that the most complex and I must say almost 3-4% of my clients is that advanced: the Vocal Alignment®.
What it means is that not only is there a link with the external and internal voices, but this is reflected in the universe in all that we encounter on a quantum physical level, but above all, of course, it is clear that it is also on a spiritual level.
I’ve always wanted to live in the United States since I started traveling when I was 16 and I didn’t exactly plan to do this but I definitely thought I would be successful and so I never gave up and determination was the main element.

Tonight’s event is organized by Learn Italy, an agency that promotes the spread of Italian culture and language.

We organize events to promote Italian talent to promote Italian excellence that are many and with the event tonight we launched a new series of projects called “Talents on the net” so we will bring to America especially in the city of New York talents that may be a Vocal Coach as today in the case of Milena or may be creators of fashion or experts in food and wine and similar things.

Our agency is also important in terms of the formation of Italian culture in the world. In fact, for several years we have been carrying out post-graduate and post-graduate courses of higher education and in addition we are authorized and recognized by the University for Foreigners of Siena for courses in Italian language and culture in particular aimed at all those who want to achieve internationally recognized certifications such as CILS, which is the certificate of Italian as a foreign language that is valid for universities for access to our country for applications regarding citizenship, study visas and more.

I am very happy about an evening like this because training institutions like Learn Italy USA have managed to build a bridge over the Atlantic by networking the Italian talents who are making their mark abroad because this is our wealth, our culture, our intelligence to discover new paths through which to help us to become better.

a greeting then to Milena Origgi and also Silvana Mangione of the General Council of Italians Abroad, who was also our guest a few weeks ago together with the members of the presidential committee.

Here is the full TV show L’Italia con voi from RAI, where you can see Mylena Vocal Coach

The Art of Keeping an Healthy Voice

The Art of Keeping an Healthy Voice

How to make it survive in the Internet jungle

From today you will find in all bookshops, even online, my new eBook titled “The Art of Keeping a Healthy Voice”.

It’s a 100-page eBook that includes much of the experience I’ve gained over the years while working and by receiving dozens and dozens of emails every day with desperate or disillusioned requests for help from people who somehow are no longer able to use their voices in everyday life.

My social commitment has been known for a long time. In addition to the various activities that go unnoticed, I always reply in person to all the emails I receive and I always offer everyone a voice assessment session directly with me. This may seem little, but on the practical side it keeps me very busy.

Based on the emails I receive, it seems that the DIY training and especially the tutorial videos on YouTube are at the basis of many jeopardized voices. Since it would be reckless for me to point out everything as “harmful” or “incompetent”, I preferred to give you a way to figure out by yourself when something is definitely to be avoided and not professional.

In the attempt to “save” at least some of these people in the first place, since the topic of “vocal health” is very important to me, I decided to make this ebook also available free of charge via my website.

I ask you to help me spread it as much as possible through your social networks, your blogs or any other website. The only recommendation is to share the link where to download the eBook and not the eBook itself. Sharing the link means sharing this page:

https://www.inbornvoice.com/us/art-of-keeping-a-healthy-voice.html

and not its content, because the book is protected by copyright and sharing the PDF would cause you unnecessary problems.

Here is where you can download the free eBook “The Art of Keeping a Healthy Voice” by Mylena Vocal Coach.

The eBook includes my 5 golden rules, 28 practical tips and 25 testimonials so that you can understand the magnitude of the problem.

For those who prefer paper or use a Kindle device, I asked the publisher to release it at a very low price, so you’ll find it really cheap.

Vocal Coaching: the winning tool for your career

Vocal Coaching: the winning tool for your career

Today it is essential to grasp before the others which, among the many available, is the tool that can allow you to have that extra something and help you on the road to personal success.

The number of Coaches and their specializations is rising, but while the majority aim to teach new things, Mylena Vocal Coach and Inborn Voice stand out for their desire to “free” the voice and identity of people to make them truly unique.

In fact, uniqueness is the only winning weapon of the third millennium

Here is an interesting article about Mylena and her working method

Here is the link to the original content