The most common question I’m asked, either in person or via email, is “I don’t understand what Inborn Voice is,” or “What’s the difference between Inborn Voice and the traditional vocal Coaching?
The simplest and most understandable answer is “Try to believe”. In fact, it only takes one session to understand how effective and different the Inborn Voice method is from what we are used to.
You will all have heard or spoken languages such as Italian, French or Spanish. I could also make the comparison with languages further away from ours, such as Japanese, but I think it is appropriate to consider Spanish as is the most widely spoken language in the world.
The words we use to describe an object, a situation or an emotion are “containers”, more or less precise, of an idea that is born and lives inside us.
The main mistake is to think that these containers are “universal”, or rather, uniquely understandable. They’re not. If two people say the word “yellow”, it is practically impossible that they have the exact same idea of yellow inside them. The only possibility that two people mean the same idea of “yellow” is when they are confronted with an external object of a color that can be generically defined as “yellow”.
The second mistake is thinking that there is only one way to pronounce the word “yellow”. That is not so. For example, you can pronounce it with an intonation of joy, like that of someone who finds a golden nugget and shows it exulting “Yellow”, or with the intonation of someone who reads a bad grade on the report card, indicating the poor result written in “yellow”.
The third mistake is thinking that the structure of a sentence is the same for everyone. It’s not. Even when the words are the same, the intonation, pauses, breaths, speed and so much more change the sentence. The same sentence can have as many meanings as there are people who pronounce it. You only need to listen to a great actor recite a poem to understand the difference between his and your interpretation. Even if you were to copy it, it would be impossible for you to do so.
Because you lack the translation between the world of emotions and the world of voice. Knowing a foreign language firsthand, even with a good degree of mastery, it is really difficult to express a deep emotion or thought to others. On the contrary, for many people it is difficult, if not impossible, to do so already in their mother tongue. Many people take over half a century to understand this truth.
Ordering a pizza from a waiter is one thing, making a love declaration or having a job interview is another. Even knowing which words are the most appropriate to express a situation, the way they are pronounced will greatly influence how they are perceived by the other person. For example, you can use words of affection with a detached tone, words of encouragement with an angry tone, words of criticism with a smile. All messages that will be received, you can bet, in the wrong way. And don’t think this is limited to talking. The exact same thing can be applied to listening to others. How many times have you rejoiced at hearing words that actually just wanted to avoid sadness, how many times have you felt lost listening to words that actually wanted to soothe?
As you can read in my latest book “The Way of the Voice”, to explain to the world the power of the Inborn Voice, I emphasize very well that our Inborn Voice is a language more similar to music than traditional languages. A music that contains within a single note, every single emotion or thought, all the other notes. A sort of symphony where everything is always in harmony. To better understand this strange comparison, you need to know that some people can recognize the sound of a violin played live from a recording, just as there are people who can recognize if the recording is digital or analog, and even recognize the type of amplifier used. To an ordinary person that sound is just a musical instrument. The same thing happens in people who begin to understand their own Inborn Voice.
So ultimately, my Inborn Voice method aims to create something that doesn’t normally exist. Only a few, fortunate, people are able to understand and translate their emotions for others through voice. Using the voice is not only a matter of technique, but also of soul. Inborn Voice is the bridge that connects the technical aspect to the emotional aspect, enriching it with unimaginable nuances.
Certainly technique is important, but not as important as expressiveness. In fact, many famous artists, whether actors, singers or voice actors, although they have an enormous ability to communicate with their audience, do not have the technical mastery of their voice.
So the next time you find yourself thinking that your problems of work, socialization or sentimental problems could find a better voice, don’t look for the “technical” solution, the one guided by the mind, but the “human” solution, the one guided by your heart.
Finally, I invite you to read my free ebook, “The Art of Keeping an Healthy Voice”, because even those who claim to know and teach the “vocal technique” in reality often have no idea how much damage they can create in others’ voice.
Even if on television we continue to see press conferences and interviews of people who do not wear protective medical masks, which, let’s recall it, are more a defensive barrier not to infect others than to prevent our contagion, anyone who has worn one will have immediately realized that he or she has problems breathing, talking and, above all, making himself or herself understood.
Among the hundreds of emails I receive daily, lately I receive more and more from people who find it difficult to talk and be understood through a medical or surgical mask. Clearly if you use a gas mask, speech becomes even more complicated. Don’t be fooled by Hollywood movies, fiction is always far from reality.
Clearly those who have a good vocal training background, will be able to emit sounds and articulate words much more effectively, even through a medical mask.
Usually those who try to talk for a long time through a medical mask find themselves with some inflammation of the phonatory apparatus, such as lowering of voice, hoarseness, or unpleasant tones or sudden changes in tone.
Since I’m very concerned about preserving vocal health, here are my five tips for talking while wearing a mask to defend yourself against the CoronaVirus outbreak:
If you have any more questions, write them down here!
When I work on the voice of people trying to improve their socio-economic position, I often find myself pointing out things and teaching behaviours that should be far from us as evolved human beings.
If you look carefully at people who have “deserved” and not “got” some kind of personal affirmation in their professional or social life, it will be easy to notice differences with a normal person. Substantial differences are not related to a sophisticated way of using their voice, an elegant dress or a plethora of “followers”. In fact, all these elements can be added, constructed or even purchased. One should observe carefully to note that the differences are not added elements, but removed elements.
Many of my clients, professionals, entrepreneurs, CEOs, but also actors and singers, come to me after attending some kind of vocal training, from diction to acting, from presentation to public speaking, which is a pretext to teach them, or to add, something more.
My teachings are more subtle and effective, in fact I do not pretend to add anything, I only pretend to eliminate something that already exists and that ruins the beauty of human communication.
Well, some of these elements to remove, are almost always nervous tics, unconscious automatisms, expression of some kind of inner insecurity or some fear kept repressed and now silent.
Have you ever seen a great leader, so to speak, scratch her head? Or touch her nose or her face or put her hands to her mouth? These are unconscious behaviors that just as unconsciously express some communicative message.
And this message always reaches its destination, with results that are often cited as “sixth sense”, “bad impression” or something else.
These gestures, tics and unconscious movements pass from generation to generation and it takes a really good motivation to be able to defeat them.
What better opportunity to eradicate a good part of these movements if the one that is offering us, against our will, this pandemic of Corona Virus Covid-19? Now it is imperative not to touch your face, especially your eyes, nose and mouth. Just bite your nails, put your fingers in your nose, use your hands for improper purposes, for example to bring food to your mouth, to cover a sneeze or yawn. There are many other, much more elegant ways to do this!
If you are young, you have the opportunity to avoid transmitting these attitudes to your future children, because it should not be forgotten that the common influence is also transmitted in this way and has accompanied us for thousands of years. If we have not managed to eradicate it, there must be a reason!
In addition to this, there is also breathing, an element at the basis of life itself and human vocality. Did you know that 90% of people who take the Inborn Voice route and learn to breathe correctly are even able to quadruple their breathing capacity? In fact, there are very few people who, when they reach adulthood, breathe correctly, i.e. make the most of their diaphragm. To their amazement, even those who come to me with vocal studies behind them and are sure to have problems with the vocal cords are clearly mistaken in their breathing.
A good breathing helps the whole human being, not only the voice, but with a good voice, the rest will come by itself.
Mylena Vocal Coach, CEO of Inborn Voice, has decided to help companies in her native land by offering a training fund equal to $25,000 to help companies in Milan and throughout Lombardy affected by the events of recent days.
As local government encourages teleworking, companies will be faced with something new for them, namely how to build, manage and bring success to a new type of “distance” relationship.
Mylena is a vocal Coach specialized in Executive Communication, Corporate Communication Skills and Team Building, who has been working for more than 30 years with the main multinationals that have been facing this kind of corporate revolution since a long time.
Mylena will offer free online lessons in Team Building and Social Communication to businesses who request them, in order to keep up morale and productivity in the economic heart of Italy.
Improving one’s voice communication skills leads to a natural harmony and unity, indispensable in times of corporate crisis.
The requirements to access the fund are few and simple:
Anyone interested in accessing Mylena Vocal Coach’s experience can do so by contacting her directly through her website.
This morning I woke up excited by the anniversary that falls today: Valentine’s Day! Whether you want it or not, Valentine’s Day stirs the hearts and colors all cities red and fills them with hearts. You feel united by the power of love and even if you live it daily, the feeling is amplified by celebrating it all together.
For singles it can be difficult or time of hope, but don’t worry because love exists, just trust and listen to your Inborn Voice.
With the enthusiasm of a little girl I decided to write this post and to share with you the hidden strength in our voice that can spread in the world bringing love and why not, sensuality.
Let’s take a little step back to pay tribute to the legend of Valentine’s Day. It is said that he used to give young lovers a flower from his garden, a rose, as a good omen for their love. One of these roses gave birth to a great love that proved to be lasting and happy. So from flower to flower this beautiful anniversary spread.
Who is pierced by Cupid’s arrow suddenly finds himself talking with his eyes, having a dumb smile on his face and unable to think of anything but his soul mate. Certainly the feelings that are moved inside are not easy to manage or to communicate.
You have no idea how many people contact me to rehearse that “I love you” or a speech at the wedding.
How nice to see them turning red, hesitant, smiling, living in love.
So here are the 5 nice rules on how to practice delivering “I Love You”.
These simple rules will give you the magic to look at yourselves, feel yourselves, collect yourselves and let yourself be carried away by the most beautiful feeling in the world the rest will be love.
You have questions, write to me!
I love to talk about love and help you convey it with enthusiasm and satisfaction.