This is certainly nothing new: various branches of science, from psychology to medicine, have been saying for some time that moods are somehow “contagious” and are transmitted from one individual to another.
Those who are familiar with my work know that everything is vibration, so I am not at all surprised. The human voice carries so many secrets and this is one of the simplest. When you listen to the voice of a charismatic leader, a positive person, you are overwhelmed by positive energy and the desire to do and create is triggered. By listening to the voice of a negative or sad person, you lose the will to do or you increase anger and fear.
The study involved more than 50,000 people and focused on work productivity, but the data that emerged is also very interesting for those who are dedicated to improving the voice of people.
It’s not so much the presence of a person and their hidden “vibrations” that create this domino effect, but their voice. It is necessary for this person to communicate his or her malaise by voice so that the contagion can begin. In fact, if you put a negative person in a group and you don’t leave them the space to speak, they are typically isolated from the group, causing little damage. If, on the other hand, pushed by empathy, one “connects”, the matter changes. All the surrounding people are involved and overwhelmed by the negative vortex. Even the less empathic people, those who mind their own business, are involved. And trying to give “tips”, trying to help, will spread this contagion like wildfire, through the voice of those who have been exposed long enough to change its resonance.
Positivity generates positivity, as long as it is not enveloped by an aura of negativity. In fact, research has shown that negative opinions, sadness, despair, have a greater impact on the people around them than positive opinions, happiness, joy.
Our culture lacks training, the ability to avoid infection, diffusion or negative energy. In fact, the opposite seems true. We’re drawn to negativity. Some psychologists at Harvard University with whom I recently collaborated, have analyzed the link between emotional states, voice and relational patterns. They finally determined that “negativity” spreads just like a virus would. As they usually do, they also pulled out statistical numerical data. I find a good match for this data with my experience as a Vocal Coach. A positive person, with an untrained voice, can only increase the positivity of others by 10%, while a negative person can even duplicate the unhappiness already present in others.
So choosing who to attend, who to listen to, is fundamental. The more you interact with negative people, the more you absorb negative vibrations. Be careful, though. In fact, hostility is also a negative vibration, so it is useless to run away or deliberately avoid negative people, because it will only bring negativity to the environment. Our interactions act as a filter, you have to learn to listen to your Inborn Voice in order not to be affected by negativity and not to suddenly give up, all at once, our positivity because you risk to frustrate it.
Learn to listen is fundamental. It is important to understand how our voice can reflect negativity in order to be able to change it, with little tricks, and turn it into a happy voice. This is why it is fundamental to choose carefully who to entrust your voice to, both to communicate and to learn how to use it. Positive emotions are and will always be the best gift we can give to someone who is going through a bad time, but only if we are able to control our voice.
Have you ever tried to give a positive emotion to the right person, the resonant one? Try it and you’ll see that it will always come back multiplied, reinforced. You can deepen the subject by reading my website, reading my book The Way of the Voice or starting a training with me and the Inborn Voice method.
Here is a little video from my Milano (Italy) Workshop.
You will be able to feel the Christmas atmosphere and see some of beauty of the City!
and here some video testimonial released immediately after the workshop. The video is in Italian with English Captions.
Here is the transcript of the Testimonials, leave a comment here or in the the Video if you have any question:
Inborn Voice gave me energy
I shared the energies of all the people who were here with me.
My voice has changed!
I can hear it, thanks for that!
The way I look at myself has changed:I want to dare, from today I want to dare!
And I thank the flooding spring that really gave me light.
So thank you, thank you, thank you Mylena Vocal Coach!
Inborn Voice has brought back the spring at the source
I feel very fluid, I feel very liquid inside, like the snow that melted, and that it has reached a stream.
At the same time I feel a little crackling heat, but more moderate.
My voice, I hear it’s become the best accessory I’d like to show off now
So a sincere thank you to Mylena Vocal Coach, thanks to the energy of the group because I feel very rich. Like mother earth, thank you!
To all those who seek a solution by copying someone else and I know you’ re a lot of people.
To all who know that there’s something inside them that needs to emerge and they don’t know how to bring it out.
To all those who have swallowed dozens of self-help books, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera
You know who you are!
Do this workshop too!
The solution is pretty simple: by removing emotional locks which unfortunately can take years to resolve in another ways, see psychoanalysis alas or fortunately to me.
But let’s just say that Inborn Voice is something, in my opinion, collateral and faster.
You can unleash skills that are buried under tons of dust
This is what I wish you and what I’m feeling.
Each Inborn Voice Workshop is a new piece of my life.
I wish everyone to see this video and share it, and make the most of it.
Try it, they say it costs nothing, and to this day I can confirm that money is only a means: Happiness is more than that!
Thanks Mylena Vocal Coach!
I’m at my third workshop and I can officially say that Inborn Voice never disappoints!
It never disappoints because it really can be that missing spark, that if you want to, can really change your life.
You have to believe it all the time, to work hard on it, stop naming things.
Inborn Voice is like Rock, who throws the grenade only if you are then willing to build out of the rubble and pull yourself up
So I thank Mylena Vocal Coach and today’s classmates, because they’ve given me so much, they helped me to get the confirmation of what is the place in the world.
I can only thank and say that I feel a great joy sharing this journey with these people and I’m addressing whom if, like me at 40, you asked yourself
if all is here..
I say no!
that’s not all!
Come to a workshop and find out yourself because Inborn Voice is something you experience
Here is the video made during the Vocal Coaching workshop, Your Voice, Your Identity, held in London. This video is very special because in addition to showing Leicester Square decorated with Christmas markets and some of Harry Potter’s London locations, it includes a two-way interview with Elisa, one of the first to release a video testimony on the Inborn Voice method, now more than 5 years ago. This workshop is the most international of those held this year by Mylena Vocal Coach, because it includes participants from Italy (since the date of Rome was already full), from Paris (since Paris was full).
As always, also at the end of this Workshop some of the participants have chosen to give a hot witness: here they are.
Here is the transcript of the Testimonials:
Let’s give some feedback on the the workshop today
I didn’t know what to expect
I came here with an open mind, but I was really blown away by the amazing connections I’ve made with a lot of people
It showed me that if I’m really open and honest about how I’m feeling
I can reach others and touch them and help them and they can help you too
so thank you very much Mylena Vocal Coach!
I agree. This was my first time, my first experience, so I came here like open-minded to feel and to connect more with myself
I truly got my mantra which is like openness and not to put up a wall
I met also wonderful people as well for me this was a first experience I like to say you can find here your power, the power in your life
This was also for me the first experience and I didn’t know what to expect from it but I was amazing!
I Want to Thank you all you and Mylena Vocal Coach for this experience
because I’ve discovered a lots of things about myself and what I can do
So yes, this workshop is amazing!
This is my fourth experience and I would like to thank you all for being here and also thank myself to be always open to you and Mylena Vocal Coach
it’s really a powerful day when you can reach your Inborn Voice and when you feel we who you really are and feel other people
This is my third workshop with Mylena Vocal Coach, I wish they were more!
This experience was really a strong day But every time I have a workshop with with Mylena Vocal Coach with Inborn Voice I can feel the authenticity about the experience
It’s all simply about sharing energy with trust, to allow your Inborn Voice to flourish and transform your life.
So thank you all, Thank you Mylena Vocal Coach.
Hi! this is my second experience with the Inborn Voice workshop
It was an amazing and fantastic experience, full of vibes, positive energy and positive vibes.
if you if you love yourself you must try once in your life this kind of workshop
if you don’t love after yourself it’s time to start loving yourself!
How important is it to be able to present yourself, a product or an argument in front of an audience? A key importance. The first impression is still the one that will affect all subsequent ones. If you are not able to present your arguments at university, during an exam or an admission speech, if you are unable to present your product correctly to a potential client or your results to your boss, if you are unable to showcase the best of yourself at the first job interview or at a romantic date, a second chance will be very unlikely to be achieved.
Each university course, each job position, and each social relationship requires some personal presentation skills. You can read as many books as you please, take as many courses as you wish, but these three tips which I am about to give you are only available in here and you will soon also discover why.
Today there’ a lot of advertising about public speaking. You can find manuals and courses just about anywhere. Everyone underlines the crucial importance of being able to communicate in public. Have you ever taken a second to analyze the reality of the situation or did you get carried away by the advertising? They are talking about manuals, written in black and white, which claim to teach how to speak in public. They are talking about courses where they pretend to reveal all the major techniques necessary to speak in public. Too good to be true? Indeed, books and courses start by assuming that you already know how to use your voice in the right way, that you are able to express naturalness and credibility. They are castles built on the sand!
If someone is already able to communicate that way, he/she would have no difficulty in speaking or presenting. If they cannot, it is mainly because they are unable to use their voices correctly, they are failing to convey the message correctly. Of course, learning to move, to watch or to build speeches capable of striking the target is useful, but if you can not transmit it with the voice, as well as seeming boring or uninteresting, you will also seem awkward. Not to mention that all these courses and manuals create clones, in other words they do nothing but analyze, codify and repeat the techniques that were effective and natural in some of the greats of the past, such as Steve Jobs. Do you want to become a bad copy of someone else or do you want to give voice to your own personality?
Sometimes you can even find a funny side in manuals or public speaking courses. You are given instructions such as “speak clearly“, ” scan the words“, “keep up the pace“.
In fact, these and other instructions are just part of knowing how to use your own voice. If you have no idea how to do it, these instructions don’t make any sense. Everyone is able to press a red button whenever a red light comes on. Action, reaction. But if you’re told to press the button only when a red light comes on after a blue light is present and only if you hear a buzzer sound too, it gets more complex. The longer you lengthen the sequence of operations to be kept in mind, however simple they may be when singles, we can no longer keep up the pace and we lose control. All of these courses only add elements to your presentation process, completely taking away any possibility of control. That’s why many people would rather die than talk in front of an audience. Yet if you learn to use your own voice, then everything becomes natural. It will become a result of your speaking. In fact, if you speak the right way, transmitting to others your message, your emotions, it is only natural to have a compelling rhythm, take pauses, look at the other people in the eyes. They are all elements of effective communication because you seek some feedback from those who listen. If you see faces that are unconvinced, dispersed or otherwise, you will repeat the concept in another way. All of this will gradually grow, quite naturally, once you start to improve the way you use your voice.
To improve your voice does not mean to make it “more beautiful”, but it means to become its master. You can’t do this by following a karaoke style singing course or learning from those who can’t speak English without bad habits, without strong accents, or to those who have some difficulties in expressing themselves. Those who teach must absolutely be masters of their own voice.
What are the benefits of becoming masters of your own voice? Here I could also write a book, but I will point out the most common ones, those that you can also experience personally or by watching the video testimonials on this website.
Learning to use our own voice means to affirm our personality in every situation and make us an active part in our lives, without excuses or unnecessary complaints. Obviously, also in the case of vocal training, we must be careful, not always everything that glitters is gold and only those who begin along the correct path will find themselves able to reach the end.
The Vocal Coach work is always exciting and very often, when a student has succeeded in freeing his/her voice, he/she grow a desire to “help others”.
Here we have a sort of Hamlet dilemma because who doesn’t want to help the other ones? All the good hearted people feel the urge to help others, the only issue is that they don’t know how to do it. Before analyzing how, perhaps it is better to make a digression and try to understand where and why this fresh altruistic drive is born.
When someone chooses to work a bit deeper on his/her voice via the Inborn Voice method and my help, within a few weeks he/she realizes that life, as he/she knew it before, no longer exists. Little by little, one step at a time, he/she finally manages to succeed in accomplishing what seemed impossible: he/she manages to communicate to other people. The conscious use of the voice enables the surfacing of his/her feelings, fears and strengths.
This may not sound like much, but in truth it’s all you need to radically change your life, to start awakening. Often people are not aware of their expressive difficulties, they are convinced that are other people who “do not understands. During their lifetime they have learnt, one experience after another, that it is extremely difficult to establish a collaboration or a lasting relationship between people. Over time, they also learnt to stop searching further. At one point they even stop engaging with other people: some choose to “whine” about everything, others prefer to suffer in silence.
As I have explained in my book, The Way of the Voice, many of the people dissatisfied with their state of affairs become entangled in what I call dream-like disciplines and become part of homogeneous “groups” of people who are persuaded that it is possible to find a “cure”, a solution outside of oneself, by doing or sharing something within a small group. A group is certainly what they are looking for, but instead of building one suitable for their own life realization, they enter a pre-packaged one. Other people, perhaps luckier, realize that the solution must be sought inside us, in our depth, and try to learn a discipline that may help them with their introspection.
Although not everyone knows it, my job as Vocal Coach is a bit like that. The human voice, the real one, our Inborn Voice, is coming from the innermost depths of our soul. When I manage to make their voice bloom again, people discover what they were looking for had always been under their noses, namely “the mouth”, the voice. And their life changes. It changes because where before they were rejected, now they find an affirmation. Where before a quarrel originated, now serenity is built. Where doors were closed, now they can see an already open door in plain sight. Depending on the determination and the person, the results can be more or less striking, as you can watch from the video testimonials that I have on my site.
I am extremely happy when someone, as a result of my work, stops believing that there are no longer hopes of improving their working, sentimental or social lives. And I’m even happier when they decide to share their “finding” among people, actually helping other individuals.
This is where confusion sometimes arises. For whatever reason, someone who has discovered the benefits of my work, a new and effective voice, chooses not to share my work with others. He/She hides me as a precious thing, he/she doesn’t want people to know what made their lives blossom. Yet still they seek from me advices on how they can help others by themselves. The answer I always give them is simple. What were the consequences of choosing to hide their voice, their feelings and their expectations? Just suffering and unsatisfactory life. By suppressing the joy of shouting to the world “it is possible to improve one’s working life”, “it is possible to have satisfactory romantic relationships” or “it is possible to improve one’s social life”, nothing good will be achieved. The easiest way to share with other people your achievements is what I have already taught them, thanks to my work as a vocal coach. Just tell the others “Listen, I was like you before, then I discovered my voice thanks to Mylena Vocal Coach and my life is now the one you are looking at”. It will then be the others to decide if and how to contact me to start a journey together. The idea of wanting to help them personally is something worthwhile, but very few people ask me how to become a vocal coach for the Inborn Voice method.
This happens not only as a result of my work, but in all disciplines that somehow move the balance of things and cause a person to feel the desire to shout to the world that, after so much suffering, they have finally found a solution. The mistake is not desiring to help others actively, in the first person, but to think that all others have the same problem or that our solution is universal. Each of my clients sees only a small number of facets of my work as a Vocal Coach, the ones that were most useful to them. They can’t understand that in reality my work is more complex than assigning some exercises. Every exercise was been built around their issues. 100 different clients will have 100 different exercises. When they find this out, very few people are willing to ” learn ” such a broad topic over so many years.
So the best way to help a person is to share with them the idea that it is possible to change, that you have succeeded with the work of a specific expert. If you have a dishwasher that doesn’t work, you call a technician. If you meet someone who complains about the malfunction of their dishwasher, what do you do? Are you going to take it apart or do you recommend who solved our problem?