Probably you have seen on TV or in the Social Media his Senate hearing and you have made your own opinion, or you have seen only all the people making fun of him.
Well, this is a sort of bulling thing I will invite you to reflect on.
When someone speaks in front of the public, no one cares about what the speaker is feeling inside or what is really trying to express. The public will receive a different message and will judge everything only from that message.
Clearly, Mark Zuckerberg has not received effective voice coaching! Or he has mistakenly picked up the wrong one.
Most voice coaches teach improvised versions of standard vocal training exercises. Most of them have either zero personal experience in public speaking or zero ability to teach how they do speak so fluently. In modern times, most of them have learned how to teach, or how we are supposed to speak, from a book! That’s not a joke. It is like learning a foreign language from a book, without never hearing someone speaking that language.
Unfortunately, standard vocal training exercises don’t address the source of what prevents or blocks someone’s ability to effectively express him or herself at all times.
Mark Zuckerberg hearing is a good example on bad vocal coaching.
He was clearly struggling against himself, to control the fear he was feeling!
This is the number one error to avoid. Yet several highly paid, well-known vocal coaches stress the importance of fear distraction techniques. The result of this bad teaching were the prolonged moments of silence in Mr. Zuckerberg’s responses. No one has perceived “Oh, look how emotional he is”. Consequently, everyone thought he was trying to hide something!
The second error he made was consuming too much energy trying to control his fear and his delivery. Again this was working against the correct delivery of his message. His conscious “thinking”, the “brain”, has very limited processing speed and capacity. It functions much slower than the sub-conscious mind. Our thinking mind can’t even handle simple tasks like walking! Clearly when we walk, we’re not consciously moving all the individual muscles in our body required to do so! By the time we’d thought, “Pick up left foot and move it forward” we’d have taken several steps forward!
And talking require a much bigger coordination effort.
The result of this “control everything” coaching was that when he was trying to express one of his point, he was delivering a robotic message. And everyone in the audience thought some version of “how inexperienced is this guy?!” or “I don’t trust him, he’s too emotionless”.
His third mistake was the classic “try to be trustful” thing! This is another ineffective common public speaking technique he either read about or was taught. Every time he admitted one of his fault, he left the impression “how irresponsible is this guy?!” instead.
Those are just three examples evidencing that he has not been properly coached in public speaking!
Obviously, it’s extremely difficult to be questioned publicly for 10 hours by the US Senate!; however, had Mr. Zuckerberg been better coached, I’m confident he would have communicated his points in a way that would have left us feeling more confident in him and his company.
Open letter to Mr. Zuckerberg:
I suspect you are extremely charismatic; otherwise, your empire wouldn’t exist!
I suspect your nature is very different than the image you’re trying to project. I suspect at heart you’re a nerdy tech guy, trying to come across as a global business operations rock star!
Can you speak or sing publicly like a real rock star? Absolutely! But not while you’re trying to sound like someone else!
Let me help you reconnect with your Inborn Voice!
Mylena Vocal Coach
The Voice Guru!
Mylena Vocal Coach has a three-page interview in the April issue of Elle magazine, explaining how her passion to be the most effective voice teacher in the world has led her to offer online lessons to clients on all continents. She truly is a “Voice Guru”.
The title of the interview is “In search of the Inborn Voice”, which is the voice “that everyone has ‘inside’ and would love – but we are not able to – let it emerge. Mylena Origgi, vocal coach from Boston, teaches how to find it again. This is not only for professional singers or speakers. Everyone can free the inner vibration and discover their real essence’.
Mylena says “MINE IS NOT A TRAINING FOR FAKING A VOICE THAT IS NOT YOURS. I DO NOT TEACH HOW TO FAKE, I DO TEACH HOW TO LET EMERGE YOUR STRENGTHS”
«Many people do not love their voice, maybe because they feel it sounds ‘unclear’ or ‘uncertain’. Voice can mislead personality: a ‘childish’ voice can be an issue if you are a CEO. If you have a shrill voice, everyone will mock you and you will be named forever as a ‘looser’, especially in the USA where competitions and challenges are ruling the society since preschool».
The inborn voice is the means to take back to the «’real’ voice, the one you had before all the social and cultural conditioning of the past. Inborn voice will let you wipe away all the defects that have ‘ruined’ your voice. After the training you will be able to express your emotions once again. Sometimes clients need just few lessons to reach their goal (like removing an accent), sometimes the path can be longer. My work is delivered in three different areas: technical, emotional and voice realignment. Your Inborn Voice is the one that lets you laugh or cry even when you are simply reading a book. Sometimes people are not able to explain why they are laughing or crying. That’s because they are not able to understand the language of their Inborn Voice. The same apply for men and women that are hard or somber and not able to feel anymore emotions: they have simply buried so deeply their Inborn Voice that they are not even able to hear it as a whisper».
«If you think that a Vocal Coach is useful only for singers, you are wrong. Voices sell, earn trust (if you are in business), and voices calm, caress. I have client ranging from teachers to therapists, from voice over artists to actors, from lecturers to youtube stars, retirees willing to overcome voice aging and even everyday moms that want to stop shouting to their loved kids».
If you click the Elle magazine cover image, you will be able to open a preview of the full interview!
Inborn Voice is thrilled to present this Luxury Retreat in Sirmione, Italy, June 03-09, 2018. Italian lakes are famous all over the world for their beauty, and Sirmione sits in the middle of Garda’s Lake, the biggest one. Sirmione literally sits on a short strip of land that stretches out to the the middle of the lake. The ancient city features breathtaking scenery. The surrounding area is full of colorful houses, vineyards, olive groves and lemon orchards.
Sirmione is one of the most beautiful places in all of Italy. Mylena Vocal Coach was born in Italy and wants to share this amazing part of the world and its culture, with this truly unique voice, yoga and wellness retreat with all of you!
Starting from the 1st century BC, the area of the Garda, including what is now Sirmione, became a favorite resort for rich families coming from Verona, the main Roman city in north-eastern Italy. Verona is known all around the world for the romantic story of the two lovers Romeo and Juliet and is home of one of the world largest roman amphitheaters the Arena where is still running live Opera. Sirmione was a possession of the Republic of Venice from 1405 until 1797, when it was acquired by the Habsburg Empire. It became part of the Kingdom of Italy in 1860. The main historical landmark of Sirmione is the so-called Grottoes of Catullus (Grotte di Catullo), the most striking example of a Roman private edifice discovered in northern Italy. The town is famous for its natural hot springs that are just in the middle of the lake.
Romans invented the SPA a very long time ago! The word SPA comes from the Latin phrase, “Salus Per Aqua,” or “health through water,” traditionally used to mean a place where the water is believed to have special health-giving properties. This is usually a mineral or hot spring, and can include cold water treatments.
But today a SPA can mean much, much more. In fact the term spa is now applied to any business whose aim is to increase the wellbeing of your mind, body and soul as long as it includes at least one hydrotherapy treatment.
Paths to wellbeing are as varied as we are, but you can be sure of one thing: that this luxury wellness retreat sponsored by Inborn Voice will exceed your expectations.
The water is channelled from the thermal spring through a complex system of protected and insulated stainless steel pipes, which keeps its chemical-physical properties unchanged. Every drop of water that eventually reaches the spring has taken a journey that has lasted over 10,000 years!
The sulphurous water with bromide and iodide salts combines bestowing therapeutic actions that affect the whole body and, in particular, the respiratory, osteoarticular, circulatory, cutaneous and gynaecological systems.
Our retreat takes place near the shores of the lake, just a short, free ride away from Sirmione, a pedestrian only city. June is high tourist season on the lake and you will find people there from all over the world, especially Europe, all there to enjoy the most relaxing vacation ever. You will find all sorts of activities and sports. The luxury hotel has a private SPA inside for hotel guests. All meals are included except one, the lunch in Verona. Starting with a delicious and hearty breakfast, we continue with lunch and dinner. You will alway be served at a table and all meal and ride tips are already included! We have scheduled a boat trip on the lake with Prosecco and a rich buffet, a winery tour with cheese, limoncello and wine tasting, followed by a dining experience with three course meal and wine in the countryside!
Twice per day (except for the arrival and departure day) you will retune and realign your voice and practice yoga!
Mylena will take you on a journey to unlock your voice in a truly unique way with the Inborn Voice Method. You will be able to sense the subtle vibration that resides within you and learn how to shift it into a magic day, whenever you want!
Allan, will guide you through an experience that will reacquaint you with the essential physical and mental aspect of yourself, including light stretching, breath concentration and meditation exercises.
Mylena and Allan will listen to what the group wants more and adjust accordingly for the best retreat experience!
There are several incredible excursions in our Sirmione Luxury Wellness Retreat:
BOAT TOUR WITH PROSECCO AND RICH BUFFET of Sirmione Peninsula. This private boat tour will take you around the picturesque coastline of Sirmione, viewing ruins of the Roman era Catullo’s Villa.
GUIDED VISIT TO VERONA. Verona is one the most important cities near Sirmione and has thousands yeas of history, monuments to discover and enjoy, and great restaurants! After the guided tour we will spend the rest of the day in Verona enjoying lunch in a restaurant of your choice (this lunch is the only one not included) and shopping among some the Italy’s finest hand made crafts as well as some of its most famous luxury brands.
WINE AND GASTRONOMY TOUR. We will take a local winery tour to enjoy wines, cheeses, olive oil and limoncello. All these products find their origins in this region of Italy, and they taste here like nowhere else! After the tasting we will continue with a three course meal and wine at a restaurant close to the rural area near the lake!
The area of Sirmione offers a lot of activities to enjoy, including walking along the lake shores or hiking, water sports including sailing and diving, horseback riding, climbing, golf, tennis and much more.
Here’s what is included in this wonderful Sirmione Luxury Wellness Retreat:
Single Room with en suite bath: starting from 3,299.00€ (approximately 4,000.00 USD)
Shared Room with a friend or other guest: starting from 2,899.00€ (approximately 3,500.00 USD)
Must reserve with a 25% deposit and pay in full 6 weeks before departure.
Flights to/from your home and Milan Malpensa Airport and Drinks/Beverages are not included.
Vegetarian and Vegan option available upon request.
Retreat is limited to a maximum of 16 people.
Please contact us to receive a detailed schedule and retreat policies.
We can arrange for extend accommodations in Sirmione, or elsewhere in Italy, just ask!
The term GURU define a special kind of teacher, one that knows and perfectly understands a specific art form.
Milena Origgi’s Art form is the Voice and she is a Vocal Coach!
Loving and caring for her voice since childhood, Milena understood very early that the Voice was her unique talent.
Then her Voice became a powerful instrument, first to define herself, her identity and then the hidden Essence of her clients and students.
She has even created a Training Method from her unique vision, naming it Inborn Voice.
The Inborn Voice method deals in everything that is related to the Voice at 360°.
I don’t work with the Technical aspect of the Voice alone.
I go deeper and embrace the full potential that human Voice has to offer.
According to Milena, our Voice is the only way we have to let people listen to us.
By first listening to your own Voice, the same voice that everyone else can hear, but more importantly, by listening to your Inborn Voice, the one that lives inside of you and that only you can perceive, you start to understand who you really are and let the world accept that.
It is important to learn how to live in awareness of your voice.
One of the mile stones of the Inborn Voice Method is Vocal Realignment™
It is achieved through the realignment between the vibration that lives inside us, our Inborn Voice, and the vibration of our voice in the outside world.
It may seem like a path designed only for vocal professionals like singers, voice over artists and actors, but it works for everyone else as well.
The method is really useful to anyone who want take back their voice or discover their real voice, to become assertive or to overcome big obstacles.
When someone is interested in improving their voice, either the one they use to speak or the one they feel inside, I help them to express through their voice something that is exactly in tune to what they feel inside.
This process is useful not only for singers, actors and voice over artists, but also for managers and everyone who relies on their voice to make a living, like therapists, psychologists, doctors, lawyers, moms, parents, couples.
I started very young. When I was 6/8 years old, I became aware of my talent. But then, like everyone else, I followed an academic path, and when I was 25/26 years old I started fully committing to the world of voice training.
Now I have almost 30 years of experience, but it all started with my extreme curiosity.
It was my curiosity to meet different people, new type of sounds and vibrations, new languages, new accents and finally new emotions, that has driven me to continuously change the country that I live in.
Now I think I will stop in Boston because it is one of the cities that I love the most.
Milena’s first dream was to sing. But it was only in adulthood that she has fully understood that her talent was not related only to her own voice, but also to the voices of others.
She has the gift to unlock other’s people voice and to help everyone to find their voice, to help everyone to gain the inner strength
directly from the source: the Inborn Voice.
Today, thanks to her career, she travels all over the World studying sounds and vibrations from different cultures.
Thanks to her second book, soon available in English, “La Via della Voce”, she has made this new type of voice training available Online.
Today Milena has conducted over 17,000 Vocal Coaching Session.
In 2016 she was given the title of Topic Expert in Communication Techniques from the University of the Holy Heart in Rome.
It is a Course that has been recently added to our University curricula just to give the students the opportunity to be prepared to speak in front of the public .They have to overcome stage fright and Voice Training plays a fondamental role in this.
We are trying to introduce a new type of university course with the participation of business and vocal experts helping the students become aware of the powers hidden inside their voices.
Vocal Coach, Topic Expert, Voice Guru, or Voice-Tuner, as she defines herself.
Milena “fixes” people’s Voices.
She transforms the voice into the balance point between soul and body.
I’ve been gifted with the talent of being a voice-tuner and in this role I understand what to do and when to do it to “fix” someone’s voice.
I travel the world all year round and despite that I always had time for my wife, my sons and to play sports.
My life is full of sports like skydiving, snowboarding, tennis, bicycling and archery.
I met Milena over the Internet and I started with some suspicion, without giving her too much credit.
At that time, I was not comfortable with my voice, but with every lesson I was more and more confident.
She was even able to make me do what I considered impossible: sing!
This was something I was missing in my life, which was already full of other satisfactions, and I was very happy to be able to sing
because my father was a good singer.
Milena was able to instill in me the trust and the willforce to do it.
With Milena’s method people are able to attain greater self awareness and greater expressive capabilities
through a path that identifies the talent hidden inside of their voice and emotions.
All this allows for their inner self to bloom!
Have you ever attended a social gathering, walked up to the stranger, talked for 5 minutes, then never speak with them again? We all know that you would not become friends with everyone you ever met. However, as our life goes on, we do have the need to constantly develop new friendships. Friendships also change as interactions with each other can increase or decrease, for example, you talked to your college friends every day in college but the interactions dropped off when some of them moved back to the place where they came from after graduation. That is okay and that’s why we need to start new conversations and develop new relationships with new people.
Starting a conversation happens basically anywhere, from career fairs to coffee shops and it is an important skill to pick up in life. So, we are here to tell you what you are doing wrong that resulted in an awkward 5-minute conversation.
In a family gathering like Thanksgiving, you often see relatives that you only see once a year. You are probably annoyed by the same questions these relatives throw at you every single time such as “What do you do” & “Where do you live”. It is no different when you meet a stranger, nobody likes to answer those questions or they even have created a script for those questions. Also, we think we should all know questions like “What are you doing this weekend?” or “What’s going on” are not going to lead you to anywhere and just end in an awkward silence.
Let’s make this clear, we are not encouraging you to not ask questions but our objective is to get people to talk more about them. It is important to know not to ask questions in order to start conversations. We don’t want to bore our counterparts and make them nervous which resulted in a premature end.
We all have our feelings and sometimes it is okay to express your negative feelings and opinions to someone you know well. However, in some situations, people would be turned off by the negative opinion or sometimes insults. Here’s quick story to illustrate my point.
Hotel Receptionist: Where are you from?
Hotel Receptionist: I hate Boston. I went there last winter and the snow freaked me out. Not going to visit again for a long time.
I get that it does snow a lot in Boston, but there is no need to bash on the place where I live. Not only did I receive the negative opinion about my city but also ended the conversation quickly.
If a friend or a co-worker changed their hairstyle, you can say, “You got a haircut?” or “Your hair looks great!” Both deliver the same message but you can clearly tell the latter is the better choice. When you make a compliment, it is crucial to make sure you deliver your message clearly. A compliment like “You smell like you just came back from the beach. No one can tell if that is a compliment or an insult other than the speaker himself. However, we all can tell that is not a great conversation starter.
In order to keep the conversation going after a compliment, you can ask a question. Wait, what happen to the no question part? Yes, that is true but you can ask a question that won’t annoy people. Let’s illustrate this point with a story that happened to me, I recently purchased a pair of new shoes and walked into the office. My co-worker asked me, “I like your shoes, where did you get it?” Not only this started a conversation but it is also a compliment. After I told him the location, she told me, her brother’s birthday is coming up and that would be a perfect gift for him.
It could be difficult for people start a conversation with a stranger. However, by making that first step and keeping that conversation going, you could end up with a great friendship. By following the 3 principles above, you would never have the awkward 5-minute conversation again.
Contact Inborn Voice for more tips on how to speak more clearly and using your voice more effectively. We offer voice & speech lessons and therapies, public speaking training, and interview preparations. We are located at the Cummings Center in Beverly, MA while offering lessons worldwide via Skype.