Sometimes resonances also occur in the silence of the ether. Curious how a social network like LinkedIn can prove once again that “there are no accidents” by creating a “magic”.
My followers know that I have many projects in preparation, including a new Youtube channel. “Time” is the only scarce resource for those who work on their own, for every “freelancer”. The goal of every good freelancer must be to be able to forge an intimate, firm and lasting relationship with good customers and not simply gain new clients. He/she must strive to get more serenity and “free time” for him/herself. It seems like a play on words but it’s a reality that most people are understanding.
Sometimes we work so hard to produce such small results, but if you stop and listen, our Inborn Voice often speaks to us. And it speaks to us about decisions, choices, problems that involve us at that very moment. I’ll put you below the interview Mylena Vocal Coach gave to Barbara Reverberi for the PodCast News for Freelancer.
Here’s the transcript of the entire video:
Hello welcome or welcome back to news for freelance.
This is the podcast dedicated to our life, I’m not going to linger long, I know that many of you already listen to me since a long time, others do it while they do pilates, rather than other activities and this is the magic of podcasting!
So thank you for being here and thank you for the comments and feedback you’ll give me. You know they are always welcome for a constant improvement and especially to identify the issues that are most interesting for you and that we can share.
Before introducing today’s guest, a very interesting guest, in line with my research on the voice in particular on the improvement of our vocality, “in a broader sense”. This is a bit the message, it is the legacy of the podcasting festival that was just last Saturday at the talent garden: an extraordinary event.
I would like to give you a report of this too, it left me a lot especially because I met many people, many enthusiasts and emerging podcasters. We were over 150 and I must say that it was nice to listen to meet, talk and share.
I also thank Giulio Gaudiano, who was a bit the forerunner, the one who encouraged me to start with his book, and I also thank Andrea Ciraulo because, really, with his very calm voice is very interesting.
So let’s return to the theme of voice but before doing so I remind you that I’m Barbara Reverberi I’m a journalist I deal with media relations and digital PR
Why all this freelance stuff?
Because this is my passion, but because this is my life. It’s my life! I’ve been freelancing for over seven years. after a first period of solitary freelance I realized that maybe it was better not running alone, so I decided to share this experience with a colleague Moira Perruso and then setting up “MOBA Comunicazione” and then to create Freelance Network Italia.
This is a large group of professionals in communication and digital media. Freelance Network presents itself to us al: we collaborate and present ourselves to the customer in a modular formula so we try to meet their needs in an agile way. here are a little of the news about the free lance network that is growing We formed as an association in June, if you want more information look for the freelance network Italy group, now open to everybody, and if you like what happens within this group what we share that are experience. Sometimes we even share discounts that we can get from other partners, but above all we really share news and everything that is useful to our training for our improvement.
Useful for our improvement!
So I come straight away to tell you about today’s guest Today’s guest impressed me! I read an interview dedicated to her by Roselina Salemi in the magazine ELLE some time ago I did a post on linkedin dedicated to the voice and I must say that this post has really engaged because many are interested in the voice system. I say system because it is really a complex area of interest.
Milena Origgi, also known as Mylena Vocal Coach is really an expert of the voice and run and followed several activities. She run several conferences and workshops but the extraordinary thing is that I liked her story because she started from Busto Arsizio! She initially worked mainly on Milan and then she grew so much to reach Boston where she now lives since 5 years and her project is becoming even bigger than that.
Her project is to bring the method she created called Inborn Voice around the world. the starting point is beautiful in my opinion: the voice identifies us and when we will find our originary voice, our Inborn Voice, we will have really grasped the essence of our existence and we will be able to transmit it to others.
So starting from the voice the improvement will reach and benefit our entire life! I’ll leave you really soon to Milena but I take this opportunity to bring your attention to three focal points that she will touch the first point is the originality, the second is listening to our voice but also the voice of others and sometimes I would say especially the voice of others just to enter into a relationship and create healthy relationships with the customer because this help us to work better and finally love our voice. beautiful: to love our voice! I have a question for you all. How many of you have recorded a vocal note, have listened to it again and have not loved the voice?
This is a good awareness point. This happened to me and for this reason I’m studying and working a lot on my voice from here we start also for a more extensive improvement of our very existence starting from the fact that the voice is what makes us immediately recognizable identifiable
Try to do an experiment if you were in a large room and began to speak without being seen maybe someone who knows you would identify you immediately and this I think is already extraordinary in itself
So love your own voice to improve not only our voice but ourselves! and now leave you to Milena Origgi
Hello to all news for freelance listeners following Barbara and her podcasts I am Milena Origgi, also known as Mylena Vocal Coach or the Voice Guru
My life is a real roller coaster!
I am originally from Busto Arsizio and currently live in the United States precisely in the elegant city of Boston I moved about five years ago to respond to the needs of my American customers and to further spread my method Inborn Voice in this great country
I immediately agreed to be interviewed for the podcast because this is a topic very important to me and I love to share my international experience As all of you, I have started my company from scratch by making it grow first in Milan, then throughout Italy, I opened my second studio in London, then my third in Boston and the upcoming project I’m working on are New York and Los Angeles
For more than 30 years I’ve been dealing with the voice of people, to professional voice training at 360 degrees with the method Inborn Voice and I invite you to dig a little deeper by reading my website www.inbornvoice.com or my latest book “The Way of the Voice”
The results of my work have spread so quickly and well beyond the Italian borders This unexpectedly led me to become a pioneer of online lessons and today my customers range from Hawaii islands to Hong Kong
Maybe you do not know but there are thirteen different time zones between these two extremes of the planet! So it became necessary for me to live and work in a time zone that was more central to these requirements The east coast of the United States is the perfect place!
Luckily for me more and more people understand the importance of the voice in modern interpersonal communication the famous “networking” especially in the working field and in the world of politics.
Every day so, with joy and passion, I spread my experience to managers, entrepreneurs, actors, dubbers, youtubers and clearly many freelancers! But I also love working with ordinary people, especially mothers, couples and teenagers.
Summing up all this presentation, I can say that: “What’s my secret?” Obviously the voice!
We are freelancers, for us the voice matters a great deal as for all other people but perhaps for us who must make us recognizable that we must be appreciated because we must know how to “sell” what we are the voice matters even more I want to ask you how someone can begins to train the voice?
Dear Barbara, how do we start?
With an act of will!
It is essential to recognize when our voice has some difficulty and not only “recognize,” but also to “feel” that there is a difficulty because it is from there that you start from there that you choose to do an act of will and start to discover a new land and start to cultivate your voice
Milena, The second question for you is this one: is there a way in which we can better present ourselves or better present our project to a customer How to to speak the truth during a presentation?
Voice is our most powerful business card, even powerful than a designer dress! I created the Inborn Voice method precisely because it is fundamental to “find your voice”, find your own way in this world. Too often we are confused and we mistake one of our personalities, built during our life experience, for our true identity. The fulcrum of all my work is linked to this concept, that’s why I have written the book “The way of the Voice” and my most exclusive workshop is called “Your Voice, Your Identity”.
The best way is to start looking for our true identity so that it can reflect very well what we are saying to avoid to “sell” to our customers a personality that does not correspond to us and therefore does not reflect our passion undermining the trust and credibility in front of our clients.
Can you also give us three tips to improve your voice?
I will have in many more to give!
Above all not to copy others for example looking at videos, learning generic notions and so on this makes us “standard” our originality is dispersed and we have a lot more to offer!
Second: to take a pause to listen at the harmony between our voice and the one of the client clearly during a negotiation you have no idea how much a good training affect this point.
This point alone streamlines your and my work time
I give you a simple example a freelance client of mine went from staying awake until midnight every single night to prepare the strategy to “propose” to the client to going to bed at ten after watching a movie with his family
Inborn Voice does not add burden does not add new things to know, but removes and lightens giving fast and lasting results
Third and final advice: start listening and loving your own voice so that you can hear and highlight the weak points without hiding them from yourself
Why this? Every weak point is fertile ground for your fears your uncertainties and as Simona Ventura says, these fears reach directly in the belly and can undermine the success of a job to which you have dedicated yourself for a long time.
Do you know that even a few “humming” like our “mhm”, our “but” have much value in the success of a sale?
The stats I have highlighted in thirty years of experience is almost the loss of the sale of 70 percent
Confidence gushes out in a firm and present voice that will always give you the result you expected.
You have written several books the last one, “The way of the voice” and you recognize that identity is fundamental for our voice or vice versa voice is the key to give emphasis to our identity I know that there will be a great event of yours in Milan and I would be glad if you could talk about it a little so I can leave a link in the post that will follow this podcast
Dear Barbara, of course! “Your voice, Your identity”, the identity and the voice are indissolubly linked
There will be this event, in Milan and it will be a workshop!
It ‘s my flagship one, after so many years of hard work, dedication, not always easy, I guarantee you We finally reached the thirteenth edition that will be the one in Milan
The tour began in Los Angeles, touches New York, London, Paris and last stage of 2019 will be my beloved Milan
Then I will devote myself to the following dates in 2020
What is this event all about? It is a real workshop so you will receive some brief notion and soon after we will start to reach, awaken, activate the maximum expression of your identity through the multiple potential of your Inborn Voice. I love it!
You will be the protagonists of the day and I will be your guide who will respect, free and embellish, your incredible communication tool, your voice.
You will stop using that voice that lies event to yourself and does not represent you You will remove vocal blocks, energy and physiological ones, for some is a beautiful experience in which their most hidden essence awakens
Clear examples of the feelings that you will experience can be summed up topical moments of these movies
The first is Harry Potter: imagine yourself in front of the door full of hundreds of locks that with a single key, which I call Inborn Voice, opens magically and reveals the philosopher’s stone: the treasure!
Then we also have Dead Poets Society its intensity I will make you live the same intensity.
The last film love very much and that I’ve seen hundreds of times is Eat, pray and love. when Julia Roberts summarizes the journey to find herself, the real herself, in a significant sentence: If you’re brave enough to set out on a truth-seeking journey, either externally or internally, and if you are truly willing to face and forgive some very difficult realities about yourself, then the truth will not be withheld from you
This is what you will live at the workshop in Milan an experience closely related to your voice, your communication but the beauty of human expression that I defend every day with great passion and confidence
A greeting to all, thanks for listening a greeting to you Barbara and good freelancing!
Well dear friends who listen to me dear friends freelance have noticed the difference between my voice the voice of Milena? considerable! I have so much to work you perceive how my voice still needs to be educated and so I’m just happy to have met Milena on my way happy because in fact responded to my appeal with enthusiasm after that post on LinkedIn
So it comes to me to say how useful are the social networks when they are used with common sense and criterion even for a personal project on the other hand I thank Milena for this pill of her suggestions that are definitely useful for us to help us freelancer that we want to change the way we see the world of work with greater freedom of choice and therefore what’s better than an Inborn Voice, the one that identifies us and that we have lost over the years because of the imprinting that we received?
Then I strongly want to proceed with this path so I shared it with you I hope you listen carefully that you also go read all the information available about Milena and her method in particular I will leave you in the post also the references to find Milena
There is also an opportunity of discount for three of you who want to participate in the workshop in Milan. Milena travels the world so it’s an opportunity to have her here in Milan too if someone is particularly interested I can write in private I remember my contacts I’m on twitter, I’m on LinkedIn and of course on telegram in any case if you want to contact me and leave a message in private I’ll be happy to give you more precise information
I leave the in-depth links below the post I’m happy that Milena was our guest thank you once again and thank you especially for following me so faithfully I’m really pleased I hope to do a good job for all of us
Today the journalist and blogger Sara Maria Malacalza published on the account Instagram de i Libri Salvano, her review on the book of Mylena Vocal Coach “The way of the Voice”.
You can read it directly on Instagram (in Italian) or translated at the bottom of this page.
Here is the review of i_libri_salvano, translated in english:
We are seeds full of essence, bearers of a light capable of piercing that veil that prevents us from seeing.
Milena, who has never stopped looking for herself in her life and has refused imposed silences, helps us to find the guru who has always been within us waiting to be brought to light and able to show us the way to the conscious use of voice. Vocal Coach, lives and works in Boston even with blind children, autistic and mute, knows how to transform the student into a musical instrument perfectly tuned through the method INBORN VOICE allows us to find, recognize and educate our voice.
A reading that helps us to understand the true meaning of the word, the value of the energies and vibrations that compose us and bring back to the surface that “inborn voice” originally shaped by time, lies and the “external voice”.
A book that teaches us not to shut down the talent within us, not to silence our essence among the millions that surround us and to reconnect with the primordial sensitivity.
All of this through its evolution through gestation, birth, the growth of the individual and the interaction between the brain and the phonatory apparatus.
Milena also teaches us that “unsuitable resonances” (accents, cadences, faulty pronunciation) can be blunted by training the vocality.
A woman who has found her essence: to connect people to their voices, I am still looking for my … and you?
Milena will soon be in Europe with her workshops in London and Milan!
The human being has been granted the incredible super power of free will, that is, he/she can always choose between a number of possibilities to act. As always, great power carries great responsibilities.
One of the daily decisions that people make all the time is whether to speak or remain silent. Clearly, when one decides to speak, then one must also decide what to say, when one decides to be silent, then one must also willingly accept all the implications.
This topic is so important that practically all the greatest thinkers have been attributed some aphorism about it. For example, Oscar Wilde was famous for his “Sometimes it’s better to be silent and look stupid than to open your mouth and remove any doubt“, Blaise Pascal for his “In love a silence is worth more than a speech“, but my favorite is Jean Paul Sartre’s “Every word has consequences. Every silence as well.“
In my thirty years of Vocal Coach experience I have helped people who were basically silent give voice to their emotions and people who were a little too chatty to listen to their emotions. In my book The Way of the Voice I frequently mention Silence: if you stop to listen to it properly, it’s anything but lacking in interest or musicality. So true is when Miles Davis used to say “The real music is silence. All the notes just frame it“.
So how do you understand when it’s best to be silent and when it’s necessary to talk, for unpleasant that these two situations can be?
Those who know me are well aware that there can be no “standard” answers, which are good for everyone, but I can reassure you: there is a simple marker that can help you to understand what choice should be made. Since in verbal communication, as in all other human relationships, there is rarely a second opportunity to speak, explain or express oneself. It is therefore essential to learn this subtle “art” a little at a time, also thanks to my support as a Vocal Coach.
This miraculous marker that can help you in this Hamlet decision is yourself and your Inborn Voice. Saying that seems so simple, but in reality only we can know, instinctively and unconsciously, why we choose whether to speak or not. The motivations provided by our logic may be the most disparate, but I am referring to motivations that respond to a different state of consciousness, namely they come from emotions. Sometimes we speak only to clarify a thought to ourselves, others to fill the silence. Sometimes you are silent because you fear the consequences of the spoken words, others to savor the intensity of a moment.
As I said before, whatever the choice, there will be consequences. And even if our logical side doesn’t care about the consequences, they will happen anyway and will influence the emotional side.
Most of the people I help have an impairment of their capacity to communicate their thoughts to others because they fear a negative emotion related to a specific type of consequence. Yet if we remain silent or fill the silence with circumstantial phrases or speeches for nothing, other consequences will fall into our lives. There is no way of knowing if the consequences of one choice will be worse than the other.
For example, if you choose to speak, perhaps to convince a loved one of your idea, you risk to crack your relationship forever. If you choose to be silent to avoid breaking the relationship, you risk keeping something inside that will gradually consume you from within. No choice is simple, you have to learn to listen to yourself and your inner silence to be able to make the best one. In fact, not all evils come to harm, sometimes the most feared consequences are precisely those that can make a change in your existence.
So, ultimately, the best advice I can give you is to be selfish and to choose thinking with your own mind and listening to your own Inborn Voice.
To speak truthfully is just as simple as it is complicated. Of course, small children are sincere, at least until they are taught how to lie. In The Way of the Voice, I have deeply discussed what I mean by “lying,” so I invite you to deepen the subject by reading my book.
In this scenario it is a good idea to investigate the meaning of “being truthful”, in fact it is often taken for granted what it actually means. It doesn’t mean other than “entirely pure”, or “entirely without any mixing”. We are expressing the idea of something that is all composed of the same essence. For example, a vanilla ice cream is “truthful”, a variegated one with black cherry is not, because in addition to the vanilla ice cream it also contains black cherry syrup.
So to speak the truth, in some way, does not imply at all to “tell the truth”. That means you can lie, you do not have to speak “from the heart”, it does not require any authenticity or any compassion. These are all fantasies, limited and incomplete visions of a much more complex reality.
To speak the truth it is only required to have a clear idea of what to say and to have the ability to communicate it without anything else interfering with the message.
In my over thirty years of experience as a Vocal Coach, I increasingly meet people and students who rely exclusively on manuals and books, without even considering the existence or the necessity of practical experience. This is exactly what I teach to actors in my masterclasses in Los Angeles, New York and Milan: to “act” an emotion you have to be truthful. Feeling an emotion, provided you are able to feel it, is not enough. You have to be able to convey only that emotion. If you add something else to that emotion, such as worries, anxiety, blackouts or whatever, you can never be truthful.
This is why we need the help of a vocal coach. Although other disciplines may teach us to control our emotions, only a skilled vocal coach, not just any coach, can teach us to recognize which and how many emotions we convey when we communicate.
Without specific training on your own voice it is really difficult to be objective and recognize when you are “lying” to yourself. If you learn to control your voice, if you are able to be truthful, even if you are just a normal person, a politician, a trader, a broker or anything else, you will be a leader.
My job is to help people find their own inborn voice, which is the only truly “truthful” voice within each of us.
How important is it to be able to present yourself, a product or an argument in front of an audience? A key importance. The first impression is still the one that will affect all subsequent ones. If you are not able to present your arguments at university, during an exam or an admission speech, if you are unable to present your product correctly to a potential client or your results to your boss, if you are unable to showcase the best of yourself at the first job interview or at a romantic date, a second chance will be very unlikely to be achieved.
Each university course, each job position, and each social relationship requires some personal presentation skills. You can read as many books as you please, take as many courses as you wish, but these three tips which I am about to give you are only available in here and you will soon also discover why.
Today there’ a lot of advertising about public speaking. You can find manuals and courses just about anywhere. Everyone underlines the crucial importance of being able to communicate in public. Have you ever taken a second to analyze the reality of the situation or did you get carried away by the advertising? They are talking about manuals, written in black and white, which claim to teach how to speak in public. They are talking about courses where they pretend to reveal all the major techniques necessary to speak in public. Too good to be true? Indeed, books and courses start by assuming that you already know how to use your voice in the right way, that you are able to express naturalness and credibility. They are castles built on the sand!
If someone is already able to communicate that way, he/she would have no difficulty in speaking or presenting. If they cannot, it is mainly because they are unable to use their voices correctly, they are failing to convey the message correctly. Of course, learning to move, to watch or to build speeches capable of striking the target is useful, but if you can not transmit it with the voice, as well as seeming boring or uninteresting, you will also seem awkward. Not to mention that all these courses and manuals create clones, in other words they do nothing but analyze, codify and repeat the techniques that were effective and natural in some of the greats of the past, such as Steve Jobs. Do you want to become a bad copy of someone else or do you want to give voice to your own personality?
Sometimes you can even find a funny side in manuals or public speaking courses. You are given instructions such as “speak clearly“, ” scan the words“, “keep up the pace“.
In fact, these and other instructions are just part of knowing how to use your own voice. If you have no idea how to do it, these instructions don’t make any sense. Everyone is able to press a red button whenever a red light comes on. Action, reaction. But if you’re told to press the button only when a red light comes on after a blue light is present and only if you hear a buzzer sound too, it gets more complex. The longer you lengthen the sequence of operations to be kept in mind, however simple they may be when singles, we can no longer keep up the pace and we lose control. All of these courses only add elements to your presentation process, completely taking away any possibility of control. That’s why many people would rather die than talk in front of an audience. Yet if you learn to use your own voice, then everything becomes natural. It will become a result of your speaking. In fact, if you speak the right way, transmitting to others your message, your emotions, it is only natural to have a compelling rhythm, take pauses, look at the other people in the eyes. They are all elements of effective communication because you seek some feedback from those who listen. If you see faces that are unconvinced, dispersed or otherwise, you will repeat the concept in another way. All of this will gradually grow, quite naturally, once you start to improve the way you use your voice.
To improve your voice does not mean to make it “more beautiful”, but it means to become its master. You can’t do this by following a karaoke style singing course or learning from those who can’t speak English without bad habits, without strong accents, or to those who have some difficulties in expressing themselves. Those who teach must absolutely be masters of their own voice.
What are the benefits of becoming masters of your own voice? Here I could also write a book, but I will point out the most common ones, those that you can also experience personally or by watching the video testimonials on this website.
Learning to use our own voice means to affirm our personality in every situation and make us an active part in our lives, without excuses or unnecessary complaints. Obviously, also in the case of vocal training, we must be careful, not always everything that glitters is gold and only those who begin along the correct path will find themselves able to reach the end.