The human being has been granted the incredible super power of free will, that is, he/she can always choose between a number of possibilities to act. As always, great power carries great responsibilities.
One of the daily decisions that people make all the time is whether to speak or remain silent. Clearly, when one decides to speak, then one must also decide what to say, when one decides to be silent, then one must also willingly accept all the implications.
This topic is so important that practically all the greatest thinkers have been attributed some aphorism about it. For example, Oscar Wilde was famous for his “Sometimes it’s better to be silent and look stupid than to open your mouth and remove any doubt“, Blaise Pascal for his “In love a silence is worth more than a speech“, but my favorite is Jean Paul Sartre’s “Every word has consequences. Every silence as well.“
In my thirty years of Vocal Coach experience I have helped people who were basically silent give voice to their emotions and people who were a little too chatty to listen to their emotions. In my book The Way of the Voice I frequently mention Silence: if you stop to listen to it properly, it’s anything but lacking in interest or musicality. So true is when Miles Davis used to say “The real music is silence. All the notes just frame it“.
So how do you understand when it’s best to be silent and when it’s necessary to talk, for unpleasant that these two situations can be?
Those who know me are well aware that there can be no “standard” answers, which are good for everyone, but I can reassure you: there is a simple marker that can help you to understand what choice should be made. Since in verbal communication, as in all other human relationships, there is rarely a second opportunity to speak, explain or express oneself. It is therefore essential to learn this subtle “art” a little at a time, also thanks to my support as a Vocal Coach.
This miraculous marker that can help you in this Hamlet decision is yourself and your Inborn Voice. Saying that seems so simple, but in reality only we can know, instinctively and unconsciously, why we choose whether to speak or not. The motivations provided by our logic may be the most disparate, but I am referring to motivations that respond to a different state of consciousness, namely they come from emotions. Sometimes we speak only to clarify a thought to ourselves, others to fill the silence. Sometimes you are silent because you fear the consequences of the spoken words, others to savor the intensity of a moment.
As I said before, whatever the choice, there will be consequences. And even if our logical side doesn’t care about the consequences, they will happen anyway and will influence the emotional side.
Most of the people I help have an impairment of their capacity to communicate their thoughts to others because they fear a negative emotion related to a specific type of consequence. Yet if we remain silent or fill the silence with circumstantial phrases or speeches for nothing, other consequences will fall into our lives. There is no way of knowing if the consequences of one choice will be worse than the other.
For example, if you choose to speak, perhaps to convince a loved one of your idea, you risk to crack your relationship forever. If you choose to be silent to avoid breaking the relationship, you risk keeping something inside that will gradually consume you from within. No choice is simple, you have to learn to listen to yourself and your inner silence to be able to make the best one. In fact, not all evils come to harm, sometimes the most feared consequences are precisely those that can make a change in your existence.
So, ultimately, the best advice I can give you is to be selfish and to choose thinking with your own mind and listening to your own Inborn Voice.
From today you will find in all bookshops, even online, my new eBook titled “The Art of Keeping a Healthy Voice”.
It’s a 100-page eBook that includes much of the experience I’ve gained over the years while working and by receiving dozens and dozens of emails every day with desperate or disillusioned requests for help from people who somehow are no longer able to use their voices in everyday life.
My social commitment has been known for a long time. In addition to the various activities that go unnoticed, I always reply in person to all the emails I receive and I always offer everyone a voice assessment session directly with me. This may seem little, but on the practical side it keeps me very busy.
Based on the emails I receive, it seems that the DIY training and especially the tutorial videos on YouTube are at the basis of many jeopardized voices. Since it would be reckless for me to point out everything as “harmful” or “incompetent”, I preferred to give you a way to figure out by yourself when something is definitely to be avoided and not professional.
In the attempt to “save” at least some of these people in the first place, since the topic of “vocal health” is very important to me, I decided to make this ebook also available free of charge via my website.
I ask you to help me spread it as much as possible through your social networks, your blogs or any other website. The only recommendation is to share the link where to download the eBook and not the eBook itself. Sharing the link means sharing this page:
and not its content, because the book is protected by copyright and sharing the PDF would cause you unnecessary problems.
Here is where you can download the free eBook “The Art of Keeping a Healthy Voice” by Mylena Vocal Coach.
The eBook includes my 5 golden rules, 28 practical tips and 25 testimonials so that you can understand the magnitude of the problem.
For those who prefer paper or use a Kindle device, I asked the publisher to release it at a very low price, so you’ll find it really cheap.
You have probably already had the opportunity to read in the newspapers or listen to the TV news of my last event in New York to present my work and my book to the entire city.
I was chosen by Learn Italy Communication USA, a leading cultural agency in the United States, as the first testimonial of the Italian Excellence in the World during an event organized at Urbani Truffle, the undisputed leader in the Italian truffle industry.
The event should have been presented by Francesco Semprini, La Stampa reporter in New York, but since he and his photographer were the victims of an unfortunate episode in Syria, where they were on a reportage mission (the photographer was injured in one eye, he was unharmed), his place was quickly taken by Valeria Robecco, journalist of Il Giornale and ANSA, as well as the newly appointed president of the UN reporters’ association.
During the event Valeria has asked me very interesting questions that have taken me to talk about my story, explain my method and tell more about my book. I also had the honor of receiving two questions from Maria Luisa Rossi Hawkins, the renowned Mediaset correspondent in New York.
Also present at the event was the deputy secretary of the General Committee of Italians Abroad, Dr. Silvana Mangione, who also gave a small speech to congratulate with me.
The entire event was broadcasted for Italian Television by RAI Italia, soon I will add the link of the interview I released to them.
For now I’ll give you a preview of the full video (in Italian), soon I’ll add the English Captions and the entire transcript of the interview.
Today with great excitement I see my work and passion shared on one of my favorite blogs “I want to live like that”!
This blog is very popular because the topic of “travel” combined with lifestyle change is very much loved by those who do not feel comfortable in the place where they are born and raised and want to find a better life and more opportunities. Of course, to desire not to put into practice, and here our Inborn Voice can come in handy.
Inborn Voice and my work then fits in and integrates perfectly with these experiences so brave, original and for some even “crazy”.
Emotions, vibrations and enthusiasm are the leitmotiv of my method. Presenting my book in Manhattan almost 25 years after my first visit to New York City is an indescribable emotion. Those skyscrapers seen from below look majestic and face the sky, just like your Inborn Voice, which just wants to come out into the open to take you to the sky. During the event I will guide you to rediscover what makes us feel alive and makes us find the courage to express ourselves, share, feel part of this world, making our energy and who we really are resound.
Ready to be tuned with your soul?
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Today we have finally finalized the agreement between Learn Italy Communication, a company specializing in advanced training courses that is divided between the old and the new world, with collaborations ranging from the European Union to the most prestigious Italian and American universities, and Milena Origgi, also known as Mylena Vocal Coach.
Soon new news about this fantastic opportunity that will witness Mylena teach her art, voice communication and voice skills, during Masters and University courses here in America.
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