How important is it to be able to present yourself, a product or an argument in front of an audience? A key importance. The first impression is still the one that will affect all subsequent ones. If you are not able to present your arguments at university, during an exam or an admission speech, if you are unable to present your product correctly to a potential client or your results to your boss, if you are unable to showcase the best of yourself at the first job interview or at a romantic date, a second chance will be very unlikely to be achieved.
Each university course, each job position, and each social relationship requires some personal presentation skills. You can read as many books as you please, take as many courses as you wish, but these three tips which I am about to give you are only available in here and you will soon also discover why.
Today there’ a lot of advertising about public speaking. You can find manuals and courses just about anywhere. Everyone underlines the crucial importance of being able to communicate in public. Have you ever taken a second to analyze the reality of the situation or did you get carried away by the advertising? They are talking about manuals, written in black and white, which claim to teach how to speak in public. They are talking about courses where they pretend to reveal all the major techniques necessary to speak in public. Too good to be true? Indeed, books and courses start by assuming that you already know how to use your voice in the right way, that you are able to express naturalness and credibility. They are castles built on the sand!
If someone is already able to communicate that way, he/she would have no difficulty in speaking or presenting. If they cannot, it is mainly because they are unable to use their voices correctly, they are failing to convey the message correctly. Of course, learning to move, to watch or to build speeches capable of striking the target is useful, but if you can not transmit it with the voice, as well as seeming boring or uninteresting, you will also seem awkward. Not to mention that all these courses and manuals create clones, in other words they do nothing but analyze, codify and repeat the techniques that were effective and natural in some of the greats of the past, such as Steve Jobs. Do you want to become a bad copy of someone else or do you want to give voice to your own personality?
Sometimes you can even find a funny side in manuals or public speaking courses. You are given instructions such as “speak clearly“, ” scan the words“, “keep up the pace“.
In fact, these and other instructions are just part of knowing how to use your own voice. If you have no idea how to do it, these instructions don’t make any sense. Everyone is able to press a red button whenever a red light comes on. Action, reaction. But if you’re told to press the button only when a red light comes on after a blue light is present and only if you hear a buzzer sound too, it gets more complex. The longer you lengthen the sequence of operations to be kept in mind, however simple they may be when singles, we can no longer keep up the pace and we lose control. All of these courses only add elements to your presentation process, completely taking away any possibility of control. That’s why many people would rather die than talk in front of an audience. Yet if you learn to use your own voice, then everything becomes natural. It will become a result of your speaking. In fact, if you speak the right way, transmitting to others your message, your emotions, it is only natural to have a compelling rhythm, take pauses, look at the other people in the eyes. They are all elements of effective communication because you seek some feedback from those who listen. If you see faces that are unconvinced, dispersed or otherwise, you will repeat the concept in another way. All of this will gradually grow, quite naturally, once you start to improve the way you use your voice.
To improve your voice does not mean to make it “more beautiful”, but it means to become its master. You can’t do this by following a karaoke style singing course or learning from those who can’t speak English without bad habits, without strong accents, or to those who have some difficulties in expressing themselves. Those who teach must absolutely be masters of their own voice.
What are the benefits of becoming masters of your own voice? Here I could also write a book, but I will point out the most common ones, those that you can also experience personally or by watching the video testimonials on this website.
Learning to use our own voice means to affirm our personality in every situation and make us an active part in our lives, without excuses or unnecessary complaints. Obviously, also in the case of vocal training, we must be careful, not always everything that glitters is gold and only those who begin along the correct path will find themselves able to reach the end.
The Vocal Coach work is always exciting and very often, when a student has succeeded in freeing his/her voice, he/she grow a desire to “help others”.
Here we have a sort of Hamlet dilemma because who doesn’t want to help the other ones? All the good hearted people feel the urge to help others, the only issue is that they don’t know how to do it. Before analyzing how, perhaps it is better to make a digression and try to understand where and why this fresh altruistic drive is born.
When someone chooses to work a bit deeper on his/her voice via the Inborn Voice method and my help, within a few weeks he/she realizes that life, as he/she knew it before, no longer exists. Little by little, one step at a time, he/she finally manages to succeed in accomplishing what seemed impossible: he/she manages to communicate to other people. The conscious use of the voice enables the surfacing of his/her feelings, fears and strengths.
This may not sound like much, but in truth it’s all you need to radically change your life, to start awakening. Often people are not aware of their expressive difficulties, they are convinced that are other people who “do not understands. During their lifetime they have learnt, one experience after another, that it is extremely difficult to establish a collaboration or a lasting relationship between people. Over time, they also learnt to stop searching further. At one point they even stop engaging with other people: some choose to “whine” about everything, others prefer to suffer in silence.
As I have explained in my book, The Way of the Voice, many of the people dissatisfied with their state of affairs become entangled in what I call dream-like disciplines and become part of homogeneous “groups” of people who are persuaded that it is possible to find a “cure”, a solution outside of oneself, by doing or sharing something within a small group. A group is certainly what they are looking for, but instead of building one suitable for their own life realization, they enter a pre-packaged one. Other people, perhaps luckier, realize that the solution must be sought inside us, in our depth, and try to learn a discipline that may help them with their introspection.
Although not everyone knows it, my job as Vocal Coach is a bit like that. The human voice, the real one, our Inborn Voice, is coming from the innermost depths of our soul. When I manage to make their voice bloom again, people discover what they were looking for had always been under their noses, namely “the mouth”, the voice. And their life changes. It changes because where before they were rejected, now they find an affirmation. Where before a quarrel originated, now serenity is built. Where doors were closed, now they can see an already open door in plain sight. Depending on the determination and the person, the results can be more or less striking, as you can watch from the video testimonials that I have on my site.
I am extremely happy when someone, as a result of my work, stops believing that there are no longer hopes of improving their working, sentimental or social lives. And I’m even happier when they decide to share their “finding” among people, actually helping other individuals.
This is where confusion sometimes arises. For whatever reason, someone who has discovered the benefits of my work, a new and effective voice, chooses not to share my work with others. He/She hides me as a precious thing, he/she doesn’t want people to know what made their lives blossom. Yet still they seek from me advices on how they can help others by themselves. The answer I always give them is simple. What were the consequences of choosing to hide their voice, their feelings and their expectations? Just suffering and unsatisfactory life. By suppressing the joy of shouting to the world “it is possible to improve one’s working life”, “it is possible to have satisfactory romantic relationships” or “it is possible to improve one’s social life”, nothing good will be achieved. The easiest way to share with other people your achievements is what I have already taught them, thanks to my work as a vocal coach. Just tell the others “Listen, I was like you before, then I discovered my voice thanks to Mylena Vocal Coach and my life is now the one you are looking at”. It will then be the others to decide if and how to contact me to start a journey together. The idea of wanting to help them personally is something worthwhile, but very few people ask me how to become a vocal coach for the Inborn Voice method.
This happens not only as a result of my work, but in all disciplines that somehow move the balance of things and cause a person to feel the desire to shout to the world that, after so much suffering, they have finally found a solution. The mistake is not desiring to help others actively, in the first person, but to think that all others have the same problem or that our solution is universal. Each of my clients sees only a small number of facets of my work as a Vocal Coach, the ones that were most useful to them. They can’t understand that in reality my work is more complex than assigning some exercises. Every exercise was been built around their issues. 100 different clients will have 100 different exercises. When they find this out, very few people are willing to ” learn ” such a broad topic over so many years.
So the best way to help a person is to share with them the idea that it is possible to change, that you have succeeded with the work of a specific expert. If you have a dishwasher that doesn’t work, you call a technician. If you meet someone who complains about the malfunction of their dishwasher, what do you do? Are you going to take it apart or do you recommend who solved our problem?
Every day, each human being makes hundreds of decisions. If you are reading these few lines is because of a decision, perhaps related to chance, but still a choice. Yes, many decisions are now unaware, they have become part of a sort of autopilot, but nevertheless everything we do, even “do nothing”, brush your teeth or move your body is the result of one of our decisions.
If this has captured your interest, you will now be curious how your Voice, or rather my work as a Vocal Coach, can help you in making a decision. This is the deepest part of my Vocal Coach work, the one that made me known as Voice Guru all over the world: don’t be amazed if it’s the first time ever you’ve heard of it.
Our whole existence is a continuous series of decisions.
And every choice has consequences and future decisions.
Now I will try to explain how our voice is actually closely related to each decision. It’s not a complex idea, you’ll guess it easily.
You have probably already heard of “free will” and you have an idea of what it means. But are you really sure that you have fully understood it?
Free will it’s an idea that comes from the latin “libero arbitrio” that actually means “being pleased with the decision“.
It doesn’t mean at all “to have the ability to choose whatever you want”, but “to have the opportunity to be pleased with whatever you want”. At the very least, the concept could be interpreted as “having the possibility to choose what we like”.
In fact, the very idea of making a choice is excluded from the idea of the decision making process, in fact, whatever choice is made, it will always be possible to be pleased with its consequences. If we want to force the use of a word that I do not like, every decision is the right one for us.
Before understanding further, it is also good to investigate the meaning of the word “decide”. De- is a prefix that usually means ” to remove, to eliminate “, a close relative of Dis-. The remaining part of the word originates from the Latin verb Cidere, which means “to cut away”. Now it is not my intention to bore you with the origin of the words, but just think of deciduous trees, those that lose their leaves in the winter months, to remind you of very similar to “decide”. The origin of the two words is the same. So De-Cide literally means Eliminate what can be cut off.
Therefore, in order to make a decision, it is essentially necessary to know what can be eliminated and what must be kept. Also the word “choose” has a meaning related to the idea of “liking” something instead of selection among two or more possibilities.
All of this is about voice. It is very simple once you understand the wonderful purpose it embodies. Our voice is the only means by which we can really and intimately judge and understand whether or not we really like something.
A simple idea that may seem difficult to put into practice, but if this brief explanation made you guess a light, a little guru, at the end of a tunnel then you were given the opportunity to understand it further.
You will have the opportunity to deepen this aspect of my work by reading my Vocal Coaching blog, my latest book “The Way of the Voice“, participating in specific workshops that I created (the series “Identity and the Voice“), or with a personalized online vocal coaching training.
Before understanding what are the main benefits that can be achieved training your voice with the Inborn Voice method, it is good to clarify what Mylena Vocal Coach is, as she’s not an ordinary Vocal Coach.
Her work is closely related to emotional intelligence, through the deep connection between voice and soul. Helping people to express, to accomplish through the voice, their “inner world”, therefore their emotions, their expectations, their talents, and their skills, in the “reality”.
Mylena is able to successfully solve any vocal or communication problem in a glimpse: that’s why she well-deserved to be renowned as “Voice Guru” all over the world. Her key ability is to inspire anyone to speak up, to give voice to their ideas, bringing to the surface their own hidden charisma.
Clearly, she’s also a traditional Vocal Coach that deals with phonation, diction, enunciation, locution, tonality, communication and all the “old fashioned” way of teaching how to use the voice.
The Inborn Voice method and Mylena Vocal Coach will help you seize the reins of your life to start expressing your “true self” being proud of all your strengths point and not complaining about your weaknesses.
Do you have any issues in your work environment?
Do you feel undervalued, underpaid or being exploited?
Would you like to prove your worth, ask for a raise or perhaps start up your own business?
All you need to turn your dreams into reality is just the determination and the guts to give voice to your ideas. In fact, all you have to do is learn how to project your voice to give an opportunity to the people around you, your colleagues, your boss or your subordinates, to recognize how much you are precious and unique and how much you can contribute.
Contact now Mylena Vocal Coach for a personal voice assessment session and she will outline your voice profile in few minutes! You can book your first session online using the booking system or using our app!
Do you experience difficulties when relating to other people?
Do you have problems gaining new friends?
Are you incapable to establish a lasting romantic relationship?
Do you find yourself frequently fighting with your partner?
Very often the difference between who is able to establish new relationships and who fails is not to be sought in physical appearance, economic wealth or success, but in the ability to interact with others with your voice, to express the beautiful person that you are keeping hidden within yourself.
If in your childhood you had learned some bad communication behaviors in family, at school or on television, it’s not too late to remove them!
You can learn how to communicate effectively using the Inborn Voice method and the invaluable help of Mylena Vocal Coach. Everyone can start new relationships or maintain the present ones, without struggles, misunderstandings or fights.
Interpersonal communication, as a twosome, whether it’s a friendship or sentimental one, is mainly focused on how you use your voice! When you don’t feel adequate you often tend to be silent or you tend to prevail others, perhaps raising the tone of your voice, wasting precious opportunities.
Attends one of Mylena’s international workshops in Los Angeles, Boston, New York, London, Paris, Milan, and Rome to have a jump start in your voice education. You can book your participation online or using our app!
This one is the most delicate of the three situations because it concerns deep and intimate emotions.
The parent/child relationship is something that evokes strong emotions and as we have seen, they are directly connected with your voice and your soul.
We all are someone’s children and you may still have communication issues with your parents even in elderly age! This is much more frequent than ones may think. When you stop talking, you stop communicating. You can’t express yourself anymore to our loved ones, leaving an empty space that over time will appear to be unbridgeable.
If you now are a parent, even if your desire is to be the best parent ever, you may find yourself facing your child who do not seem to be listening or who take pleasure in ignoring you.
This can be easily avoided. You are simply using your voice the bad way, and you are teaching the same behavior to your child. At this point, you will have understood how important it is for a parent to stop this repeating circle and give their children the opportunity to learn an effective way of communicating, in order to give them an important advantage that will lead them to avoid problems and hardships in the adolescent age and in the subsequent working and sentimental life.
Once you’ve made your way through the Inborn Voice training, as you can witness from the many testimonials, you may completely change your life for better!