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Principles You Must Follow in Order to Avoid the Awkward Silence

Principles You Must Follow in Order to Avoid the Awkward Silence
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Have you ever attended a social gathering, walked up to the stranger, talked for 5 minutes, then never speak with them again? We all know that you would not become friends with everyone you ever met. However, as our life goes on, we do have the need to constantly develop new friendships. Friendships also change as interactions with each other can increase or decrease, for example, you talked to your college friends every day in college but the interactions dropped off when some of them moved back to the place where they came from after graduation. That is okay and that’s why we need to start new conversations and develop new relationships with new people.

Starting a conversation happens basically anywhere, from career fairs to coffee shops and it is an important skill to pick up in life. So, we are here to tell you what you are doing wrong that resulted in an awkward 5-minute conversation.

  1. No Questions Please!!!

In a family gathering like Thanksgiving, you often see relatives that you only see once a year. You are probably annoyed by the same questions these relatives throw at you every single time such as “What do you do” & “Where do you live”. It is no different when you meet a stranger, nobody likes to answer those questions or they even have created a script for those questions. Also, we think we should all know questions like “What are you doing this weekend?” or “What’s going on” are not going to lead you to anywhere and just end in an awkward silence.

Let’s make this clear, we are not encouraging you to not ask questions but our objective is to get people to talk more about them. It is important to know not to ask questions in order to start conversations. We don’t want to bore our counterparts and make them nervous which resulted in a premature end.

  1. Don’t be Negative

We all have our feelings and sometimes it is okay to express your negative feelings and opinions to someone you know well. However, in some situations, people would be turned off by the negative opinion or sometimes insults. Here’s quick story to illustrate my point.

Hotel Receptionist: Where are you from?

Me: Boston

Hotel Receptionist: I hate Boston. I went there last winter and the snow freaked me out. Not going to visit again for a long time.

Me: Uh…

I get that it does snow a lot in Boston, but there is no need to bash on the place where I live. Not only did I receive the negative opinion about my city but also ended the conversation quickly.

  1. Compliment

If a friend or a co-worker changed their hairstyle, you can say, “You got a haircut?” or “Your hair looks great!” Both deliver the same message but you can clearly tell the latter is the better choice. When you make a compliment, it is crucial to make sure you deliver your message clearly. A compliment like “You smell like you just came back from the beach. No one can tell if that is a compliment or an insult other than the speaker himself. However, we all can tell that is not a great conversation starter.

In order to keep the conversation going after a compliment, you can ask a question. Wait, what happen to the no question part? Yes, that is true but you can ask a question that won’t annoy people. Let’s illustrate this point with a story that happened to me, I recently purchased a pair of new shoes and walked into the office. My co-worker asked me, “I like your shoes, where did you get it?” Not only this started a conversation but it is also a compliment. After I told him the location, she told me, her brother’s birthday is coming up and that would be a perfect gift for him.

It could be difficult for people start a conversation with a stranger. However, by making that first step and keeping that conversation going, you could end up with a great friendship. By following the 3 principles above, you would never have the awkward 5-minute conversation again.

Contact Inborn Voice for more tips on how to speak more clearly and using your voice more effectively. We offer voice & speech lessons and therapies, public speaking training, and interview preparations. We are located at the Cummings Center in Beverly, MA while offering lessons worldwide via Skype.

How does the Way We Speak Influence Our Brain

How does the Way We Speak Influence Our Brain

Did you know the way we speak had an influence on our personality and our brain? Our 5 senses, sight, hearing, taste, smell, and touch affects how we see the world and how we communicate with each other either in writing or speaking.

Since the way we think is reflected by the way we speak, thus if we train ourselves speak in a better and more complete manner, we are effectively and continuously changing the neural pathway of our brain. As a result, the way we think will change also.

For example, every culture on our planet has a different way of mindset and thus has a different way of communicating. This can be seen when people of different cultures speak the same language with an accent. Americans write in American English but someone from California speaks differently than someone from Massachusetts.  A person from England speaks and writes differently than someone from Australia. It is more prevalent when a person who speaks English as a second language. Someone from Japan has a totally different mindset than someone from Spain and thus may hinder their ability to express themselves when they use English to communicate with each other. All these differences have proven to develop different brainwaves and neural connections inside our brain.

It is important to not forget that our brain is something that works with sound, images, tastes, touch, smell. When we communicate, we always choose to narrow our internal reality to a single word. Let’s think back and count how many times you use the word “awesome”, “absolutely”, “sure”, “amazing”. They are a representation of different ideas that came across your mind when you communicate with other people.

With that being said, it is crucial to learn how to speak better by taking voice & speech lessons from a professional voice coach. Mylena of Inborn Voice has over 30 years of experience of teaching hundreds of students in the world to improve their voice and speaking ability using the unique Inborn Voice method. The Inborn Voice method is intended to recover the powerful and expressive voice you had when you were a baby. Contact Mylena now to improve your voice & speech effectiveness in public speaking, acting, job interviews, and more. Inborn Voice offers lessons in the Cumming Center of Beverly, MA and online lessons for international students.

3 Benefits of Voice & Speech Online Lessons

3 Benefits of Voice & Speech Online Lessons

Online Lessons in Beverly, Salem, MA

As technology has been constantly improving these days, voice and speech lessons can be carried out over the internet via apps like Skype or Hangouts. No longer restricted to the local mediocre voice teacher due to apps like Skype, it has also brought convenience to many students who would like to improve their voice and speech effectiveness. Mylena and Inborn Voice were pioneers of the long distance learning and now she utilizes the technology for reaching her students, even in countries where the broadband has much more limitations than here in the United Staes. Mylena has taught and continue to teach hundreds of students all over the world, especially in Italy, the country of the “Bel canto” and where the Inborn Voice method was born, in Europe and nationwide. You no longer need to reach the best vocal coach by commuting or taking a plane: you can have it exactly where you are. Whether it is in your comfortable living room, in your office, or at the hotel when you are away !

Here are three benefits of online lessons:

  1. Quality of the teacher: It is important to have online voice & speech lessons with an excellent teacher like Mylena of Inborn Voice than have in-person lessons with a mediocre teacher. With over 25 years of experience as a voice coach, Mylena has taught hundreds of students in Italy, the United Kingdom, and the United States. With the unique Inborn Voice Method, Mylena can easily identify the problems of your voice and help you retrieve your powerful and expressive voice that you were born with.
  2. Privacy: The performance of a student can be affected when there are other people watching in the studio.  By taking lessons online via Skype, students can avoid being embarrassed in front of other people while taking voice & speech lessons offered by Mylena, the best vocal coach using the Inborn Voice Method. In addition to that, because it is a one-on-one lesson, you have the ability to learn at your own pace, without worrying about not catching up to other students’ progress.
  3. Convenience: Students no longer have to travel for a long time to come to our studio located at the Cumming Center, Beverly, MA. Online lessons also act as an alternative for some forgetful students that often forget to come to the studio to take their lessons. Students can easily connect with their teacher in as little as 30 seconds. In addition to the local students in the Greater Boston area, students located national wide or even worldwide can take their lessons via Skype taught by Mylena the Inborn Voice Method founder at Inborn Voice.

Still not convinced? Contact us at (857) 400-7714 or fill out our contact form to begin your voice assessment. We offer voice and speech lessons & therapies in addition to public speaking and interview preparation classes in our Beverly studio and online.