Is it possible to choose our emotions?
In the modern era we are increasingly taught how to overcome an unexpected situation, whether pleasant or unpleasant, through the use of the mind and intellect. However, we must not forget that the intellect, our brain, is a tool at our service and not vice versa. This essentially means two things: our essence, our soul, and our thinking are two separate things. And more importantly, we did not come into the world to be slaves of our thoughts, but to experience on the skin something that thought can neither generate nor manage: emotions.
If you have already investigated this topic you will surely have found the most popular idea: “We cannot choose our emotions, but we can decide how to deal with them“, or its direct antagonist “You can control your emotions with meditation“. Both of these solutions involve the use of the mind, of thought, to interact with emotions. In the first case you try to impose a plan of action and fight against emotions, in the second case you simply impose yourself not to focus on emotions. Both these solutions involve ignoring emotions, creating in the first case personality disorders, in the second case “Zombies”. Clearly there is another way to deal with this problem: The Way of the Voice.
Emotions, as I explain in my book, are ancestral and both physiologically and temporally precede thought. That is, emotions are our first interaction with the world. Consider the sensation of the first breath of air, the first feeling of hunger and the first feeling of being alone in the world, after being protected, served and cuddled in the mother’s womb for 9 months. Science has no doubt that in the first months of life the brain is not capable of any thought, so what exists in those first moments are only emotions. The brain is activated much later: that’s why babies are always so genuine and spontaneous.
We have free will, so we can also choose to submit our idea to thought, but emotions are a purer vibration, stronger, and it is not possible to control or deviate them.
With Inborn Voice I can teach you how to perceive again the emotions that you had muted, and then learn to make them resonate in the world through your voice, your expressiveness, so as to bring them to fruition in this existential plane. We are a kind of tuning fork. We resonate when we come in contact with certain emotions. I would not focus too much on the problem of why it happens, because the answer would only generate more questions, but I would focus more on finding a way to make these vibrations resonate within us and then give them a way to resonate outside. No emotion is negative in the beginning, it only becomes negative when it is interpreted by the brain based on what we have been taught by others (i.e. a lie created by a probably sick mind).
So to answer the initial question, we are free to choose whether to use our heads to continue to lie to ourselves and deny the evidence, or to use our voices to learn something new and see, on the sly, the effect it has.
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