Voice and Well-Being

It is not easy to deal with criticism or negative comments about your voice, especially when it concerns your gender identity. Often this happens at a young age, and as people grow older they think their voice can no longer possibly change. It is always important to remember that your voice is a deeply personal aspect of your identity. We all have the right to express ourselves in a way that is authentic and true to how we feel deep inside, even without having to undergo surgery or hormonal interventions.

Exercises and tips to make your voice more feminine or masculine

Every day we relate ourselves to society and other people. As we grow up, we have learned to “recognize” certain aspects of these interactions by constructing “first impressions” and thus “biases.” These automatisms can be related to all five of our senses, I would even say to our “sixth sense.” Without going into the details of the consequences of these prejudices, which are personal, we are all prone to react when faced with people who smell bad, who are not dressed decently or who speak strangely. This is precisely why we have learned to wear perfume, wear fancy clothes and…?

If you are looking for de real tips and “secrets” for speaking well and especially making yourself understood, you have finally found them. 

If you have already tried to educate yourself on this topic, you have surely noticed the repetition of solutions and explanations that have nothing to do with “speaking,” that is, using your voice, and especially with making sure that you have been understood: you will have found more tricks and wiles that do not consider at all the way you speak.

In the modern era we are increasingly taught how to overcome an unexpected situation, whether pleasant or unpleasant, through the use of the mind and intellect. However, we must not forget that the intellect, our brain, is a tool at our service and not vice versa. This essentially means two things: our essence, our soul, and our thinking are two separate things. And more importantly, we did not come into the world to be slaves of our thoughts, but to experience on the skin something that thought can neither generate nor manage: emotions.

If you have already investigated this topic you will surely have found the most popular idea: “We cannot choose our emotions, but we can decide how to deal with them“, or its direct antagonist “You can control your emotions with meditation“. Both of these solutions involve the use of the mind, of thought, to interact with emotions. In the first case you try to impose a plan of action and fight against emotions, in the second case you simply impose yourself not to focus on emotions. Both these solutions involve ignoring emotions, creating in the first case personality disorders, in the second case “Zombies”. Clearly there is another way to deal with this problem: The Way of the Voice.

The trend of “I want it all and right now” seems to have no more limits. It is evident that one of the main problems of the modern society lies in the area of interpersonal communication.People feel like they are ignored, that no one is listening to them or worse: they feel empty inside.