Communication Skills

In the modern era we are increasingly taught how to overcome an unexpected situation, whether pleasant or unpleasant, through the use of the mind and intellect. However, we must not forget that the intellect, our brain, is a tool at our service and not vice versa. This essentially means two things: our essence, our soul, and our thinking are two separate things. And more importantly, we did not come into the world to be slaves of our thoughts, but to experience on the skin something that thought can neither generate nor manage: emotions.

If you have already investigated this topic you will surely have found the most popular idea: “We cannot choose our emotions, but we can decide how to deal with them“, or its direct antagonist “You can control your emotions with meditation“. Both of these solutions involve the use of the mind, of thought, to interact with emotions. In the first case you try to impose a plan of action and fight against emotions, in the second case you simply impose yourself not to focus on emotions. Both these solutions involve ignoring emotions, creating in the first case personality disorders, in the second case “Zombies”. Clearly there is another way to deal with this problem: The Way of the Voice.

There are actually quite some people who think this way. Usually they are sleazy or manipulative people. So is this skill something that really makes sense to learn? I mean, is “persuasion” to be considered a useful skill or just a way to mislead people?

Well, it all depends on what meaning you give to the word “persuade” and the ethics of the coach you’re dealing with. Certainly it is possible to learn techniques capable of influencing the way people, and even the masses, think. These are not techniques that I consider ethical and they certainly won’t get you anywhere. Being able to “control” weaker minds is not something to be proud of. These are techniques that are based on hypnosis, NPL or variations of the two. These are techniques that will never get you ahead in your career, in business, or in raising healthy children, because the prerequisite is dealing with weak minds. This has nothing to do with my work as a Vocal Coach, at least not what I teach my trainee.

Normally every month I receive about a thousand emails from people who seek from me simple advices, impossible solutions or desperate requests for help. I usually receive emails from people who believe there are ready-made solutions, from more mature people who have understood the importance of speaking and want to make a positive change in their lives and careers, or from people who are simply curious about the Inborn Voice and want to experience it for themselves. Unfortunately, in May and June of this year, the emails asking for help have exponentially increased in number, a symptom of something serious and dangerous going on. When I receive these types of requests, I always try to offer my support, but in this case, it’s important to take it a step further and alert everyone of the situation.

Today sees the release of an interview of mine that deals with a subject that is very close to my heart, that is what is defined as “personal brand” in today’s jargon. It is titled “Mylena vocal coach, personal brand to be expressed out loud“. In fact, my work has been intimately linked to the idea of “personal brand” for more than 20 years, and it is no coincidence that all my vocal coaching workshops are titled “Identity and Voice”. Even the most prestigious universities have recognized me as the pioneer and leading exponent, capable of connecting the world of voice to the world of business.

The trend of “I want it all and right now” seems to have no more limits. It is evident that one of the main problems of the modern society lies in the area of interpersonal communication.People feel like they are ignored, that no one is listening to them or worse: they feel empty inside.