Communication Skills

In the modern era we are increasingly taught how to overcome an unexpected situation, whether pleasant or unpleasant, through the use of the mind and intellect. However, we must not forget that the intellect, our brain, is a tool at our service and not vice versa. This essentially means two things: our essence, our soul, and our thinking are two separate things. And more importantly, we did not come into the world to be slaves of our thoughts, but to experience on the skin something that thought can neither generate nor manage: emotions.

If you have already investigated this topic you will surely have found the most popular idea: “We cannot choose our emotions, but we can decide how to deal with them“, or its direct antagonist “You can control your emotions with meditation“. Both of these solutions involve the use of the mind, of thought, to interact with emotions. In the first case you try to impose a plan of action and fight against emotions, in the second case you simply impose yourself not to focus on emotions. Both these solutions involve ignoring emotions, creating in the first case personality disorders, in the second case “Zombies”. Clearly there is another way to deal with this problem: The Way of the Voice.

The worldwide success of Milena Origgi, founder of the Inborn voice

The voice goes around the world. An extremely powerful tool that breaks down boundaries and overcomes limits: Milena Origgi (in the photo), the vocal coach of managers, is convinced of this and has become a reference point with enormous success with courses organized by Bocconi Alumni. They consider her method a communication soft skill.

When the world was not yet so overwhelmed by the power of the voice, the busty woman with the celestial voice but powerful notes, invented her own method, the Inborn voice. Origgi was a visionary because few, very few were so attentive to this power of which we all suffer even involuntarily the charm. And now that the number of people literally crazy about podcasts is growing and there is even a social network – Clubhouse – that is based on the sound and words we articulate, the power of the voice takes on an even more important role. It’s clear that she’s got it right, this professional who first drove the subjects of Her Majesty the Queen of England so crazy that she opened a studio in London, then flew to the United States, where she now lives, in Boston, and who, before the pandemic physically stopped her, traveled the world spreading the power of the voice.

“Because the voice doesn’t betray, it doesn’t lie. It has a power that goes beyond the rational”. Mylena vocal coach – this is her stage name – who has become a mentor to hundreds of students everywhere, is truly convinced of this. After all, just think how much we use our voices now: to the delight of those who send 10-minute messages to Tommaso Paradiso in Felicità XXX – or the legions of fans of the hitech vocal assistants Alexa and Siri.

The Vocal coach’s message – when the facts are in, she’s right – is that you can get anywhere with your voice, just don’t put limits on it. And the next time you think of the American dream or a world tour, of the beauty of conveying emotions, think of the voice of this woman who believed in herself and in her gift. For all those who are not content and are able to speak, listen and hear themselves.

There are actually quite some people who think this way. Usually they are sleazy or manipulative people. So is this skill something that really makes sense to learn? I mean, is “persuasion” to be considered a useful skill or just a way to mislead people?

Well, it all depends on what meaning you give to the word “persuade” and the ethics of the coach you’re dealing with. Certainly it is possible to learn techniques capable of influencing the way people, and even the masses, think. These are not techniques that I consider ethical and they certainly won’t get you anywhere. Being able to “control” weaker minds is not something to be proud of. These are techniques that are based on hypnosis, NPL or variations of the two. These are techniques that will never get you ahead in your career, in business, or in raising healthy children, because the prerequisite is dealing with weak minds. This has nothing to do with my work as a Vocal Coach, at least not what I teach my trainee.

Normally every month I receive about a thousand emails from people who seek from me simple advices, impossible solutions or desperate requests for help. I usually receive emails from people who believe there are ready-made solutions, from more mature people who have understood the importance of speaking and want to make a positive change in their lives and careers, or from people who are simply curious about the Inborn Voice and want to experience it for themselves. Unfortunately, in May and June of this year, the emails asking for help have exponentially increased in number, a symptom of something serious and dangerous going on. When I receive these types of requests, I always try to offer my support, but in this case, it’s important to take it a step further and alert everyone of the situation.

The trend of “I want it all and right now” seems to have no more limits. It is evident that one of the main problems of the modern society lies in the area of interpersonal communication.People feel like they are ignored, that no one is listening to them or worse: they feel empty inside.