Communication Skills

Within the morning broadcast of Disco Radio conducted by Olga Comerio there is a space dedicated to Women who have distinguished themselves for exceptional things, from Maryl Streep to the first woman graduated in the world. Well, on Wednesday September 29, 2021 they talked about Milena Origgi, aka Mylena Vocal Coach, and her extraordinary abilities in the field of Vocal Coaching that have earned her the “genius” green card from the United States of America.

Milena was a six year old girl who was singing in the choir of the church in Busto Arsizio (Italy) when an organist heard her voice and said: “This is something fantastic”. I know, it is thought of many, but that pretty and sunny little girl had a touch of genius that made her climb the steps of the musical ladder in one breath and speak directly with God. She could sing like a nightingale. Or teach others to do so. So much so that after a few years of lessons to friends and a first experience as a missionary dictated by her great faith in God, she chose not to have children and to “adopt” all the voices of the world. Milena Origgi created the InbornVoice method (“the voice that was born with you”, editor’s note), which is the salvation of every lost and desperate soul that cannot find its voice, hesitates and sings out of tune. It earned her the American residence permit for geniuses (Einstein had it too). And it applies to everyone: the business leader or the singer. “There is no wrong voice if anything, it’s the context. I help harmonize the voice with the soul.”

She calls me from Boston, where she has lived and worked for 12 years, proudly claiming her Italians origins, and even if she doesn’t say it clearly, she listens to my voice.

BUSTO ARSIZIO – The country of the constitutional right to happiness has realized the dream of Milena Origgi from Busto: to have a permanent residence permit without expiration in the United States. She is the first woman in Lombardy to have obtained the American “Greencard Genius”, the green card reserved for people with abilities defined as extraordinary. Genius, indeed. Born in 1972, she is a vocal coach. She has been living in Boston for a few years. She created the Inborn Voice method, considered the best in the field of vocal training and awareness by managers, as well as being considered a valuable soft skill by the academic world, including Bocconi and Cattolica Universities in Milan.

In the modern era we are increasingly taught how to overcome an unexpected situation, whether pleasant or unpleasant, through the use of the mind and intellect. However, we must not forget that the intellect, our brain, is a tool at our service and not vice versa. This essentially means two things: our essence, our soul, and our thinking are two separate things. And more importantly, we did not come into the world to be slaves of our thoughts, but to experience on the skin something that thought can neither generate nor manage: emotions.

If you have already investigated this topic you will surely have found the most popular idea: “We cannot choose our emotions, but we can decide how to deal with them“, or its direct antagonist “You can control your emotions with meditation“. Both of these solutions involve the use of the mind, of thought, to interact with emotions. In the first case you try to impose a plan of action and fight against emotions, in the second case you simply impose yourself not to focus on emotions. Both these solutions involve ignoring emotions, creating in the first case personality disorders, in the second case “Zombies”. Clearly there is another way to deal with this problem: The Way of the Voice.

There are actually quite some people who think this way. Usually they are sleazy or manipulative people. So is this skill something that really makes sense to learn? I mean, is “persuasion” to be considered a useful skill or just a way to mislead people?

Well, it all depends on what meaning you give to the word “persuade” and the ethics of the coach you’re dealing with. Certainly it is possible to learn techniques capable of influencing the way people, and even the masses, think. These are not techniques that I consider ethical and they certainly won’t get you anywhere. Being able to “control” weaker minds is not something to be proud of. These are techniques that are based on hypnosis, NPL or variations of the two. These are techniques that will never get you ahead in your career, in business, or in raising healthy children, because the prerequisite is dealing with weak minds. This has nothing to do with my work as a Vocal Coach, at least not what I teach my trainee.