The four levels of communication: instinct, emotions, mind, and Inborn Voice

You’ve probably already noticed that you communicate much more than you think you do. Words are not the only means of transmitting information. Your voice, breathing, body movements, and even silence are of great importance. You may also have noticed that despite your desire to explain and communicate, you often feel misunderstood, misinterpreted, or even offended. You feel like you have expressed yourself clearly, yet the facts show that you probably haven’t really managed to make yourself understood. This is where we can help you! The Inborn Voice method is based on concepts that you won’t hear anywhere else, unless they’ve been copied from us. I want to introduce you to the three main levels of communication that almost everyone experiences on a daily basis and help you understand that there is actually a fourth level, namely that of the Inborn Voice. Reaching this fourth level requires commitment, courage, and a deep desire to stop playing a role and finally start living your true essence.

First level: instinctive communication

The first level of communication that occurs between one or more individuals is instinctive. It is the oldest form of communication, the same one we share with animals. Here, the voice is disconnected from words and is pure sound: short vocalizations, guttural sounds, sighs, sudden screams, spontaneous laughter. The body moves in an equally instinctive way with rapid and direct gestures. This type of communication is used much more often than you might think, and it is not only aimed at survival. Whenever we react before our mind has had time to process an action, we use it. Think about your reaction when faced with an annoyance or when someone calls you at a time when you are busy. Your body tenses up, you raise your voice, and you make a sound. Vowels are generally preferred, but it is not uncommon to use compound sounds or short words as well. Posture changes, tone rises or falls, eyes widen or narrow. Arm gestures are also important. If you notice that in certain situations you explode without restraint, suddenly fall silent, or feel a lump in your throat before you can even think, it means that most of your communication is stuck at this first level.

Second level: emotional communication

The second level of communication that occurs between one or more individuals is emotional communication. In this case, the voice becomes richer and the body becomes more expressive and articulate, while remaining linked to a state of reaction to what is happening around us. For example, we communicate because something has touched us, hurt us, angered us, excited us, or saddened us. Emotions become the engine that gives life to a sequence of words. Every sentence arises as a response to an external stimulus that we have perceived, whether it be a comment, a judgment, silence, or behavior. At this level of communication, your voice easily betrays your emotions. And you don’t need an expert ear to recognize trembling, anger, euphoria, or disappointment in your words. If you often find yourself at the mercy of the emotions that others arouse in you, even if you think you are being natural and hiding your emotions well, the reality is quite different. When someone ignores you, you respond by tensing up. When someone raises their voice, you shut down or fight back. Each time, you allow your communication to become an echo of the emotions swirling inside you, effectively losing control of the communication.

Third level: intellectual communication

The third level of communication that occurs between one or more individuals is intellectual communication. Rational communication is often considered by most people to be the most evolved form of communication. But as vocal coach Mylena always says, the mind lies, but the voice never does. At this level, logical thinking comes into play: you choose words, construct sentences, prepare speeches, think about what to say and how you would like to say it, with the wonderful illusion of finally being in control of your communication (or, conversely, with the illusion of being completely incapable!). The illusion lies in the belief that, since you have weighed your words and prepared yourself, you will communicate clearly to others. Preparing yourself mentally, organizing your content, searching for the “right” argument, and relying on logic is not enough to guarantee clarity and effectiveness. What you think you are communicating often does not coincide at all with what you actually communicate, primarily because the recipients of your messages are not you; they do not share your experiences, your history, your traumas, your prejudices, and your way of weighing and interpreting individual words. In addition to this, if we add the fact that very rarely do your intentions to emphasize individual words and sentences, or make a dramatic pause coincide with what you actually manage to do with your voice, you can understand why the mind deceives you. It’s all an illusion that you create yourself, but you are completely unable to communicate what you think.

Fourth level: communication of the Inborn Voice

In addition to the three levels we have just seen, which you will already have heard of, there is a fourth level, that of the Inborn Voice. At this level, it is no longer a question of instinct, emotions, or reasoning, but of a completely different quality of presence and expression of one’s self, of one’s soul. At this level, it is no longer a matter of instinct, emotions, or reasoning, but of a completely different quality of presence and expression of one’s self, of one’s soul. At this level, communication no longer seeks to react to or alter external reality, but is more of an emanation that arises from a deep wisdom at your truest core, from that unique vibration that characterizes each of us from our first cry and that Mylena vocal coach calls the Inborn Voice. At this level, silence ceases to be a void to be filled at all costs with words and becomes an integral part of the message. You no longer feel the need to absorb the emotions of others. You are no longer overwhelmed by your own emotions. You simply stop wanting to change others with kind words or intentions. Instead of using your voice to control, persuade, please, or adapt, you begin to use it to show the way, to bring light, to bear witness to a different possibility without imposing it, experiencing more authentic communication that is less conditioned by the fiction of the reality that surrounds you.

The journey to discover your Inborn Voice

Accessing this fourth level requires, first and foremost, voice awareness and a great deal of courage, because you have to be willing to stop wearing a mask. It cannot be achieved with mental techniques, phonation exercises, or anything else. You have to embark on the path of the voice, which is a journey of deep acceptance of your Inborn Voice. You need to learn to listen to it from within, accepting your past, including the wounds and suffering you have forgotten, which shine through in your own voice. The path is not easy; it is a return to your origins, not an escape. You learn to see your true self without filters, to recognize the roles you play to feel accepted, to distinguish what truly belongs to you from what you have learned only to survive or please others. Similarly, at the same time, you also become able to recognize the masks of others without judging them, but without being deceived. Reality begins to appear to you for what it is and not for how you have been taught to interpret it. Your sensitivity is refined and you can perceive more clearly the moments of authenticity that surround you, recognizing who is sincere and who is just trying to take advantage of you. Once you have mastered this skill, you will be able to do so even before words are spoken. Communication at the level of the Inborn Voice occurs at the quantum level, at the level of vibrations. You will no longer need to raise your voice to be heard or feign confidence, because your communication will have become essential, clear, and consistent with who you are. A true voice realignment.

Book a voice assessment to experience your Inborn Voice firsthand

It is completely normal to recognize yourself in the first three levels of communication. What is exceptional is being aware of this, even if only in flashes. If you feel that your voice does not fully represent you, if you feel that you could communicate your reality better, it is likely that your Inborn Voice is already knocking at your door and that you are ready to embark on the path of the voice.The path to finding your voice is not theoretical; it is a concrete experience that begins with a vocal assessment. Don’t put off this moment of awareness because you will soon forget about it. Find out how the Inborn Voice method can help you stop reacting and start communicating from who you really are.