Communication Skills

Understanding the Masculine Sounding Female Voice

Do you ever ask yourself, “Why do I have a boy’s voice even though I’m a girl?” or have you noticed that your voice is deeper, hoarser, and more masculine than you would like? Well, you’re not alone! You’re not wrong to feel a deep disconnect with yourself. Your voice and your identity should go hand in hand, not be in conflict. We help many girls and adult women with this same problem every day, so we can consider ourselves not only pioneers in this field, but also the experts.

One of the most frequently asked questions is: “Why is my voice so masculine as a girl?” or “How can I make it sound more feminine again”. Your voice is the vocal reflection of who you are inside, a combination of physiology, emotions, posture, and self-expression. At Inborn Voice, we won’t try to “fix” you, but rather help you realign your voice with who you truly are inside. When this alignment is missing, you may feel like your voice no longer belongs to you.

Why your voice may sound “masculine”

There is no precise definition for a “girl’s voice” or a “boy’s voice.” There is your natural voice, and then there are layers of habits, tensions, emotions, and social expectations that modify it, day after day, until it becomes “strange.” If you’re wondering why your girl voice sounds more like a boy’s voice, before we offer our solution, here are some common factors that contribute to this phenomenon:

• Learned vocal habits
  Maybe you have learned, unconsciously, to speak from the throat or the low chest to sound “stronger”, “cooler” or less vulnerable. Over time this can make your tone darker and heavier than you feel inside.
• Muscle tension and protection
  If life is asking too much of you, the larynx and the surrounding muscles may stiffen in protection. This could cause you to go lower in pitch and lose some of your natural brightness, which may make you sound like you have a masculine voice.
• Family and social environment
  if you grew up around people who use a loud, fast, or deep tone of voice, you might be doing the same. Your voice has learned to belong to the environment.
• Hormonal or physical changes
  There are instances where hormonal changes, medication, and/or physical conditions might affect the voice. Nevertheless, the manner in which you use your voice, regardless of the condition, has a huge impact and can be developed safely.
• Emotional disconnection
  When you disconnect from your emotions to “survive” or to please others, the voice often becomes flat, rough or dull. It loses color and fluidity, which is often perceived as more “masculine” or hard.

Your voice is not wrong, it is simply asking to be heard

As you are searching online “why is my voice so masculine as a girl”, it means you already feel that your voice does not reflect who you really are. That feeling is important. It is your Inborn Voice telling you that something is out of tune with your inner world.​

Instead of forcing yourself to “sound like a girl”, the real work is to reconnect to:

• your most natural way of breathing
• your authentic emotions, without censorship
• a posture and body use that do not compress or push the voice

From here, your tone, color and presence start to shift organically.

Can I make my voice more feminine without pretending?

The answer is yes. You must never pretend. You must never trust who teaches you “to pretend”. When you stop chasing stereotypes and start listening to yourself, your real voice can bloom. A feminine voice is not simply a high voice. It is a voice that is:

• free from unnecessary tension
• emotionally connected and expressive
• resonant, clear and vibrant, not forced

The Inborn Voice method is not based on pretense. Unlike most coaches, we don’t teach you to “imitate” a female voice. We help you rediscover the voice you had before the world asked you to wear a mask to appear different. When you reconnect with your deepest self, you will no longer need to ask yourself, “Why do I have a boy’s voice?” In fact, your voice and the woman you are will begin to realign.

When to seek help

You may benefit from a dedicated vocal coaching path if:

• you avoid speaking in public because you don’t like how your voice sounds
• people often tell you that you “sound like a boy” or “sound too masculine” and it hurts you
• you feel a silent conflict between your inner femininity and your spoken voice

We always start with a personal voice assessment. We don’t just listen to how you sound, but also to the story your voice tells. From there, we will begin to build a path to help you let your authentic feminine presence shine through, without masks or tricks, as quickly as possible, but without rushing.

If you are ready to stop fighting your voice and start living in harmony with your voice, you can begin your journey with Inborn Voice. Schedule your Voice Assessment today!

When strength is only an appearance

Many people live believing they are strong, but deep down they feel that something is disturbing their peace of mind. They wake up every day with a sense of deep unease, feeling they must continue to maintain their credibility. But the truth is that this suffering does not come from being weak or sensitive, but from continuing to pretend to be strong.

Pretending to be something that is not part of us is a bit like wearing a suit that is too tight. In the long run, little by little, it tends to make your breathing shorter. What you believe shows confidence often only shows others your fear of appearing vulnerable, of failing, of disappointing others’ expectations.

Today, Rete55 aired an episode of ‘Allo Specchio’ with vocal coach Mylena Vocal Coach, Milena Origgi, where she talks about how much the voice affects the perception of beauty.

Here is the full video of the interview (25 minutes)

Often, especially on social media, many people ask me why Inborn Voice does not offer like everyone else certain techniques or “miracle secrets” in the voice coaching domain. The reason why we avoid this content lies precisely in “everyone else.” The truth is that in the world of training and personal growth, the voice is a unique and deeply personal aspect, far different from the standardized formulas that everyone so readily offers online. Algorithms reward those who offer replicated and recycled content, it’s true, but that doesn’t mean that advice is valid or effective. You may have noticed that a lot of content exploits your expectations to keep you glued to the screen and get you to ‘like’ it, and that often that content simply just doesn’t actually exist. In the case of these coaching tips, they are nothing more than a collection of outdated and repetitive ideas, dating back to literature written more than 50 years ago, which you may never have heard before. It’s a bit like being impressed by the news of a car with a 16-valve engine or a cell phone with 4G connectivity. These are technologies that have been outdated for decades, but you simply weren’t aware of them. Here at Inborn Voice, we bring you ideas and concepts that represent the future of speech coaching. It’s no coincidence that they’re used to create Communication Skills and Personal Development courses at the world’s leading universities.

When you’re in a management or leadership position, time is the scarcest resource and efficiency is the most valuable. Yet few leaders, or aspiring ones, realize how much time they waste every day repeating, explaining, or clarifying concepts that their teams haven’t fully grasped at first glance.
The cause? A voice that does not communicate what the mind and heart really want to express. This is where the Inborn Voice method has built its success over the last 30 years.